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#1 of 5 Old 09-09-2010, 05:14 PM - Thread Starter
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I'm sure this has already been covered but I can't really find it. We have a 5 Mo. son and would like to find some books for my DH. I do a LOT of reading and tend to lean towards the crunchy side of things. I co-sleep, and have definite AP leanings partially out of desire and partially because my DS demands it. My husband hasn't read much except for "The Expectant Father" and is starting to say things like "Everyone tells me we should be putting him in his own bed" and "We need to start thinking about moving him so we can have *us* time again". Also, the few times I ask him to watch the baby while I cook dinner or something he ends up putting him in the bouncer or putting on a cartoon for him to watch. He gets frustrated/irritated VERY easily if DS gets fussy, which unfortunately, he often does when my DH holds him. I end up feeling bad for asking him to help. I've tried to gently talk to him about this but it doesn't seem to be sinking in. I don't think he's resisting I just sort of think he doesn't get it. I find myself getting annoyed but I can't seem to find the right words to explain to him. I'm hoping to find some good daddy books for him. I don't want anything too preachy but something balanced about new daddies, common frustrations and how to deal with them and at least leaning towards a crunchier side of things. I don't want to hit him over the head with it but I think a book would help both of us.

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Did you ever find a good book or several?  If so, let me know what you found helpful - I'm sure it'll come in handy for my DH in a few years!

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DH and I have just found the same old books that mom's share with each other helpful. Really. A lot of times it comes down to the same thing for dad's that it is for mom's. Inexperience. 

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I'd just ask him to read the Sears Baby Book or something like that.  

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I would ask him to read the Dr. Sears Baby Book, Ina Mays guide to Breastfeeding (there is a lot about co sleeping, nursing, and baby care in there), and Attachment Parenting: Instinctive Care for Your Baby and Young Child, Katie Allison Granju . The.   . jdflksd

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