I've been a SAHD since taking parental leave on June 1st this year. Both of us are home now to raise our 2-1/2 year old son and our new daughter. I'll be resuming my apprenticeship in mid-October.
It's been a difficult adjustment for me getting up to speed with staying at home. During the first six weeks we almost abandoned the SAH plan entirely... nearly loading up my tools for work several times, but things are turning around. My wife, HomebirthHarriett also frequents the board
We're taking a very 'one-on-one' approach with our children. I'm paired up with my son, and DW is paired with DD. For nighttime, DW co-sleeps with DD. I sleep in DS's room on a mattress on the floor. I get up with DS (at whatever ungodly hour he chooses)
Toilet training is now in full swing - mostly my job - but DW's help is always appreciated. I'm getting better with the 'father & son' activities. We have garage time some days... where I take him to the garage and we attack some truck part with hand, air, and power tools - with proper safety equipment of course
Romps in the backyard are followed up with 'downtime' with refreshments in the slide-in camper sitting in the car-port. Other days I pop him in the carseat I have on my bicycle and we try out a playground or two and do some general sightseeing. (This week we happened on a concrete-truck and the driver let him sit in the driver's seat, and even mess with the controls on the mixer!!!
I haven't looked hard for Dad's groups in my area. Most of my friends have yet to begin a family, or move away from home for that matter.
Since being home, I've gone to a parent & tot group at the local elementary school, and going to informal 'playdates' with DW's La Leche League group. Luckily the "women-only" space hasn't been an issue thus far. The common ground here is
parenting after all, so if the group will accept me, the gender of the group doesn't matter to me. I'm active on a number of message boards, however this is the first parenting one for me
I hope I learn some things here, and can be a resource for others.