I am a happy ap dad and all in all I really love the idea of the "Family Bed". The only problem is that I am no longer in it; the bed that is.
When my first son was born we were all able to sleep together in our king bed comfortabaly. When our second son joined us under the sheets, I began to feel a bit crowded. I am a rather large man and I like to spread out during my sleep. I have no fear of hurting my kids in the bed or anything like that, it's just that I found it hard to stay asleep with a foot in my ear or an elbow in my ribs.
I started to wander....
Our guest room was looking better and better, and afte a whyle I started going in there when I was awoken in the night.
Now with the addition of our third son, a full nights sleep in the "family Bed" is out of the question for me. Rather, I head to the "camp-out" bed as it is known in our family and most nights I am joined by at least one of the boys by the time dawn breaks. This is a good comprimise for me, musical beds aside, I seem to get most of the rest I need...and still get to sleep with the boys a good amount of the time.
I guess in our family we really have two family beds, one which is mainly for Mom and the kids and the other for Dad and the kids. The kids get to pick and choose who they want to sleep with and this is often different from who they wake up with. Also, with a new baby in the house, this often gives mommy a bit more alone time with our newborn in the mornings if the other boys are in bed with me.
I have come to undrstand that that this is really only for a short time in our lives and all too soon I will be back in bed with my wife wishing for the thunderstorm to cause the kids to come a runnin'!
Other dads out there doing the camp-out thing too?
Are you no longer part of the "Family Bed" by choice or other?