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I'm forty-nine years old, married and have a two year old son. It's been going really well. My boy is healthy and absolutely a beautiful child. I feel really blessed to be a father at my age. I feel good, I could probably take off about five or so pounds, but otherwise in good health. My wife is twelve years younger that me.

I have a son from a previous marriage who's twenty-five. Wow. Starting over again.

Just curious if there are other fathers out there in a similar situation and how you are coping.

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Ron,
i know this is for dad's...but I couldn't pass by your post without saying something.
My dh is 50 this year...together we have two boys, ages 6 & 4. Trying for another.
He has a 27 year old son from his first marriage, who has twin boys, age 7!
Yes, that makes us grandparents!!!!

:LOL

I am 17.5 years younger than him.


madly in love with my "older" husband!!!!


Thanks for sharing!!!!!!!
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I am not a dad either; however, my little brother was born when my dad was 51. He has four other kids -- 33, 32, 31, and 15. I joke with him all the time that he just wanted one from every age group. He absolutely loves being a father at an older age. His wife is now 39. They talk about having another baby at some point. I figure more power to him.

Rebecca wife of Megan...moms to six crazy kiddos! Seth (15), Madison (13), Zachary (12), Trevor (12), Alex (10), and Nicholas (9)
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Just so you know... there is a whole group of us over in Tribes.

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=185834

we're not dads but we're moms.. and some of us are married to dads who are older. You are welcome to come hang out with us...

I'm 47 with a 3 year old. I went through the 70's, 80's and 90's...with no children.. then 2001....well, lets say it is a whole new life for me.

visit us.

Check out New Moon on my Astrology Site

http://tracyastrosalon.blogspot.com/

 

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My DH was 41 when we had our #1 and he was 53 when we had #4.

He had no previous family that we knew of -

My own father was 39 when I was born and he was 57 when he and mom delivered their 9th child UC.

"The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie, deliberate, contrived and dishonest, but the myth, persistent, persuasive and unrealistic."
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Dh is 51, I'm 32, ds is 4 months. Dh has 3 adult kids who are 24, 26, and 28. He's gotten a couple rude comments but mostly things are going great. It's hard not to be anxious about what will happen ten or twenty years from now.
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uuelisabeth -

no one can tell you what is going to happen in the next ten - twenty years. I am widowed, but one of my DD's friends married soon out of high school to her high school sweetheart...she was married just one year; he died of a heart attack in his sleep at the ripe age of twenty-two.

I know of a man who is in his nineties and has outlived four wives, all younger than him.

No one knows what is down the road, just be prepared, but enjoy the present time.

"The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie, deliberate, contrived and dishonest, but the myth, persistent, persuasive and unrealistic."
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uuelisabeth -

no one can tell you what is going to happen in the next ten - twenty years. I am widowed, but one of my DD's friends married soon out of high school to her high school sweetheart...she was married just one year; he died of a heart attack in his sleep at the ripe age of twenty-two.

I know of a man who is in his nineties and has outlived four wives, all younger than him.

No one knows what is down the road, just be prepared, but enjoy the present time.
Thanks for the response!
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My DH was 41 when we had our #1 and he was 53 when we had #4.

He had no previous family that we knew of -

My own father was 39 when I was born and he was 57 when he and mom delivered their 9th child UC.

Thanks for the encouraging words!
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Dh is 51, I'm 32, ds is 4 months. Dh has 3 adult kids who are 24, 26, and 28. He's gotten a couple rude comments but mostly things are going great. It's hard not to be anxious about what will happen ten or twenty years from now.


Thanks for the encouraging words!
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I'm 31, with a 2 month old daughter. DH just turned 40 with 14 year old twins from his first marriage. We're fortunate to have a very good relationship with his former wife.
I sometimes get nervous too, as I lost my dad 3 years ago at the age of 57, but then I tell myself how silly I'm being. And dh's father was 52 when he was born, and 29 years older than my MIL.
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My DH is going to be 56 next week. We have two children, 6 and 1-1/2. (I am 42). He is in better health than most people half his age and really adores his kids. I think it might be wierd for him in that most of his friends have kids already in college or with kids of their own. But he certainly has never mentioned a downside. In an unusual twist, he actually retired from teaching one week after his son was born! So now he gets to really watch them grow up... I did push him to start going to the gym, though!
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My DH is going to be 56 next week. We have two children, 6 and 1-1/2. (I am 42). He is in better health than most people half his age and really adores his kids. I think it might be wierd for him in that most of his friends have kids already in college or with kids of their own. But he certainly has never mentioned a downside. In an unusual twist, he actually retired from teaching one week after his son was born! So now he gets to really watch them grow up... I did push him to start going to the gym, though!


Thanks for the response! I hope to get in fifteen more years of teaching. Best to all.
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My dad was 45 when I was born, I was the oldest by his 3rd wife!

Then my sister 3 year later, then 4 adoptions, the youngest is 12 years younger than me.

My dh was 40 when our youngest were born. Plenty of others at school functions in the same age category.
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My dad was 45 when I was born, I was the oldest by his 3rd wife!

Then my sister 3 year later, then 4 adoptions, the youngest is 12 years younger than me.

My dh was 40 when our youngest were born. Plenty of others at school functions in the same age category.

Thanks!
Best to your family.
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Er... forgot to mention when I posted before that I mostly think dh being an older father is advantageous! He has so much to share. He knows a lot about life and has a heart that ages like a fine wine. Except for the being afraid to lose him (ever!) part, I think we made a great decision to have a baby while he's in his 50s.

Anyway, welcome to the boards, Ron! Good thread.
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My husband is 55, and I will be 30 this month. Our dd is 5 1/2 months and we'd like to have one more in about 15 months. This is his first (and only! ) marriage, and his first time as a father. DH is very health conscious, and beyond making appropriate financial arrangments for the kid(s) and me God forbid something should happen to him, we never think of his age as an impediment or anything...fatherhood will keep him young! Sometimes if I am going through a worrisome period (I am a chronic worrier : ), I go through the what if's in my head, but the reality is that you just never know what is going to happen in life. Marrying someone the same age as you doesn't guarantee anything.
Some might think of our age difference as problematic, but when we decided to take our relationship to the next level of marriage/children, his age would have been a stupid reason to not do something we both wanted to do. I was sort of suprised that no one at all had anything negative to say.
We're so alike in some ways, and complement each other in other ways...I could not ask for a better friend, dh, or father to my child(ren).
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My husband just turned 49, we have a 3-year-old and one on the way (I'm 31). Most days, especially now, he has more energy than I do! He has no previous marriage or children - we got married when he was 40 and I was 23.So far, it's been working really well!
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My Mother and Father were both 40 when I was born. They had 3 kids already ages 15, 13, 12, and then SURPRISE! My Mom told me when my
Dad found out he had very mixed feelings about it. He was worried he
was scared. Now when people ask him how he looks so young, he will
point to me and say, I had to keep up with this one. Well now that he
spends so much time with my dd, she has become the one that keeps
him young.
I believe older parents can make the best parents. The life experence
you have to give to that child is so valuable. My Dad was so calm and
patient with me. He had more time to spend with me one on one.
I would love to have more children someday. Because of my parents I
am in not such a hurry to make things happen, instead I allow then to
happen. (That might not have come out right, but I think you see the
positive side of what that statement means). While a few of my friends
are in a hurry to have children cause we are all turning 30. While I am
planning on waiting a good 5-8 years to try for another.
My sister had her children at age 35 and 40. Her husband is 7 years older
than she is. She said that helping care for me taught her that she had
time to have children later on.

-Janna, independent mother of dd, Ms. Mattie Sky born on my 25th birthday, 06*23*2000. My Mama Feb.21,1938-Sept.10,2006
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I'm in my early 40's & have a 20 mo DS.

I love it as I get to look back on my prior parenting style & nix all the crap.


there's something with being a tad older I can't expalin but it's great
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I found this old thread and I wanted to post...

My DH is 16 years and 5 months older than I am I'm 25 and he is 41 when we meet I just have turned 20 and he was 36.. But i didn't care I was madly in love with him, we have a DD it's his first and mine toand his first marriage when dd was born he was 40, At first everyone in my family except my mom where like But he's to old for, Get someone your age and things like that but actually Auken(My dh's name) is my first boyfriend!!!! My first time and my first love!! I think it's so beatiful that I get married to my first love and all.
I have always thought that I will marry someone older than me becuase if I would have married someone my age it would have been very different..
Besides everyone was very mean with me when I was younger I had a strong social problem I was the "nerdy girl" in every classroom I was and I had a very low self esteem he actually make me see that I'm important and I felt that actually someone cared for me(I mean outsiders from my family) and that I can be loved he teached me alot of things he was very nice to me and he is really nice to me sweet and kind and I'm madly in love with him and we have a beautiful Daughter and a beautiful marriage

Though i will share...
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I'm in my early 40's & have a 20 mo DS.

I love it as I get to look back on my prior parenting style & nix all the crap.


there's something with being a tad older I can't expalin but it's great
One out of 21 posts is from a dad. That's crazy.: I thought the whole idea of a "DADS" area was for us to seek advice from one another. Dad to Dad. I'm probably coming off like a shmuck about this but all I see in this area of the board is the unsolicited advice from the ladies and it is getting old. If advice from the ladies is what the poster had wanted wouldn’t he have posted it in one of the family boards?
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My dad was 57 when I was born. When I was a kid in the 70s, my dad was often mistaken for my granddad, which wasn't surprising since all my friends had 25 year old dads. I was aware of it but it didn't bother me. In fact, I always felt kind of special because my dad was more patient and genuinely seemed to enjoy being with me- I never felt like I was a burden to him. He never let fatherhood slow him down either, and put many younger dads to shame. He died just a few years ago, at 85. I was really blessed.
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my FIL was 50 when DH was born (the youngest of 8)...I have a dear friend who's husband turned 50 last yr when they had a newborn (their 8th...their oldest was 28 & their youngest b4 newborn was 10!!)
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MY hubby is 41 and we have a 2 year old. The weird (well not really weird just different) thing is that all of his friends have children who are off to college or having children where as all my friends have kids under say ... 10 ... He is 9 years older than me too. I think him waiting so long in life has not only have him but our children a chance to see and experiance more things in life and able (with working had of course) to send them to the best Montessori school around.

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I'm 40 and my dd is 18 months. My former high school friends have children who are in college or finishing high school, or are at least close to 10. My dw is 13 years younger than me. We fit well together so there is no problem. I really enjoy being a parent now and think it would have been a disaster for me to be a father 20 years ago. It took me many years to be where I am now in my development and it is great that the next 20 years will be even better since I can learn and grow as a parent. I think dd has much to teach me int he coming years.
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Extro'd'n'ry!
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One out of 21 posts is from a dad. That's crazy.: I thought the whole idea of a "DADS" area was for us to seek advice from one another. Dad to Dad. I'm probably coming off like a shmuck about this but all I see in this area of the board is the unsolicited advice from the ladies and it is getting old. If advice from the ladies is what the poster had wanted wouldn’t he have posted it in one of the family boards?
I didn't even realize this was on the dads board until your post. I just saw something about older dads and started reading as my dh is older. When I saw the dates on most of the posts I wasn't likely to respond to the post until I saw this. It has me wondering now exactly how many actual dads there are posting on this board. I know my dh couldn't be bothered to read or post at a parenting site and certainly would not post at a site name "Mothering"

Kristina mom to A 1/12 J 11/05 D 4/08 and tiny dude in late April 2010
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My dad was 57 when I was born. When I was a kid in the 70s, my dad was often mistaken for my granddad, which wasn't surprising since all my friends had 25 year old dads. I was aware of it but it didn't bother me. In fact, I always felt kind of special because my dad was more patient and genuinely seemed to enjoy being with me- I never felt like I was a burden to him. He never let fatherhood slow him down either, and put many younger dads to shame. He died just a few years ago, at 85. I was really blessed.
join the club my dad was the same age, he died 11 years ago, on my bday. same always full of life etc never really understood how people could say he was old and all, cause to me he wsa the same age as my mom.
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