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Pookietooth 09-19-2006 03:32 AM

It seems that my health is not good. I was wondering, are there any dads out there who are raising your kids without their mom due to their mom's death? How do you manage? Who takes care of things at home and your children? Do you use a nanny, daycare, or what? I need to make some plans should the worst happen. My husband is really worried about what he may do.

zoe398 09-19-2006 10:27 PM

I'm no dad...but I hated to read without letting you know I wish the best for you all.

Pookietooth 09-19-2006 11:17 PM


milk_maker 09-19-2006 11:20 PM

My dad raised my sister and me after my mother killed herself. He did it all...taught me how to shave my legs, wear makeup, etc...

My father worked a full time job at the shipyard and ran his own construction company on the side to get some extra money. Sometimes it seemed like he was always working and when he wasn't at work he was cooking or cleaning.

We had a babysitter during the summer who would come to the house and wake us up, feed us, and play with us during the day. During the school year we'd go to the babysitter's house after school or at some times use the after school daycare program. A large chunk of my father's income went to babysitters.

We majorly downsized...he sold our house (had to, my mother died there and there were too many memories) and rented a one-bedroom apartment. My sister and I had the room and he slept on the couch. We had this living arrangement until he remarried five years later.

For all that we didn't have much in the way of money, we were still relatively happy with our father. He did his best to learn all those girly things and always made sure that we had positive female role models in our lives.

MujerMamaMismo 09-20-2006 10:40 AM

This Dad lost his partner last year. He has posted on MDC a few times.

Pookietooth 09-20-2006 12:56 PM

Thanks, Jess and Monica. I appreciate it.

Ice Guy 09-30-2014 01:59 PM

I'm a dad six months into this. The girls are 14 & 11 year old. So far we have had both girls birthdays (one was on Mother's Day) summer break, back to school, geting up every morning, cleaning cooking, laughing at the kitchen table. Next week we take our first vacation. I work full time, then second shift at home. It not easybut my girls are the reason I keep going.

JuliaConley 04-02-2015 05:21 PM

relatives are god-sent when it comes to helping out

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