What was the labor process like for you?
Watching all of our carefully laid plans quickly unravel, and having to cope on the fly. (don't mean to scare you, but that's what happened) We went from a quiet, natural labor in a birth-center with a midwife, to an emergency-transfer hospital drugged-up birth in the span of about 24 hours. But everything turned out more than OK. Truly a miracle for us. We have an unbelievably wonderful son to show for it. So... Labor for me? It was physically and mentally annihilating... which is nothing in comparison to what it was for DW.
How involved did you feel, and what would have made you feel more involved?
I went from being intimately involved to being a spectator, as we made the transition from birth center to hospital.
Not being pushed around by the hospital medical establishment would have made me feel more involved.Is there anything you feel you could have done differently?
I could have been a better rock-of-support for DW when things got particularly trying. It was uncharted territory for both of us.What would you suggest?
For myself, I wish that I had:
-Gotten more sleep, eaten better, and exercised more during the pregnancy.
For you and yours I suggest:
-Be aware of what can happen (good and bad). Plan for the good, but just keep the knowledge of the bad in your back pocket so it doesn't get the jump on you in a pinch.
-Have a small team of loving people around, if possible. DW and I did it by ourselves (by choice). Looking back, I wish that we had involved at least a few people to help shoulder the burden.
-Have every possible comfort at your disposal. Small things can go a long way. Anything to increase the happiness level
Blessings on your new family.~mm