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So I'm having a homebirth soon and I'm very excited about the whole thing. My husband is lovely, supportive and I have no doubt will be wonderful during the birth. What I want to know is, are there any things that I can do to be especially supportive of him, either in planning or during the birth?
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Congratulations to both of you. I would, if you haven't already, ask him to read "Husband Coached Childbirth" by Robert Bradley. Not only does it give him a good explanation of what to expect, but it also points out how important it is that the two of you go through this as one. Otherwise, just seeing the joy on your face will be support enough for him.
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So I'm having a homebirth soon and I'm very excited about the whole thing. My husband is lovely, supportive and I have no doubt will be wonderful during the birth. What I want to know is, are there any things that I can do to be especially supportive of him, either in planning or during the birth?
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Crystal
Get a doula.
We had a hospital birth this time so it's admittedly different, but our doula supported me and I supported my dw.
It's important that your doula buy into this though, many doulas want to support the mom and ignore the dad, which leaves the dad unsupported and actually provides less support to the mom (IMHO).
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We gave birth in the hospital and I tried to make him feel as much a part of labor as any other member, I didn't want him to feel left out (as much as possible.)
I had him read
The Birth Partner
Labor Pain and
Heart and Hands to prepare him incase he had to 'assist' more than he had planned (like an emergency delivery at home or something).

I also made sure to pack him a bag and ask him what he would like. I gathered some special magazines for him to read, snacks, swim trunks, and clothing.

I just kept telling him how important he was to me!

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ditto on the doula thing.
dh has said, many times, "it would have been so hard without [insert doula's name]!"
in fact, we also had a close friend there too, and he's said the same about her.

things that also helped dh:
having a project in early labor as a energy release (aka, setting up the birth tub).
having lots of snacks available

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