Here, I can put up a subject and not feel intrusive. And you can get good replies from men and women. Count me as one dad who darn glad women come to this forum.
I have noticed women posting in the dads section which is ok with me. I post in women sections so I have to accpet them when they post in the dads section. Usually the women who post in the dads are looking for our pov or help. If I want a guys pov I'll ask for it. And if I receive a woman's pov along with it, I am open to her opinion as well. Afterall, it is mothering .com!
I don't post here much but when I have it's usually been in response to threads where I know my dh would have something to say if I could motivate him to post, or where my dh and I have had parallel issues and I'm relaying our experiences. For example the current thread on the mama whose dh is having impotence issues. It's something dh and I have dealt with in the past and thankfully gotten past (at least for now). I think the male perspectives on that thread are great but I don't think it's wrong for me to chime in with what worked for us, even though I'm the female half of our particular partnership.
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Ha, I will anyway.
First, if we women are buggin' ya, ya might make note of the name of the website.
You could open a Fathering website, and have just a board for women, or 'gasp' exclude us. There IS a www.fathering.com already. Maybe they have a lively, like-minded group of guys. I used to hang at a veg site that had a "Women's Issues" board. They opened a "Men's Issues" board and it was a riot. THe men NEVER posted an issue, but they were silly sometimes. Mostly, it was a very quiet, almost dead board.
You could just hit the 'ignore' option, for every woman you find posting here. It would be a pain at first, but after a while, we'd all be gone, 'Poof'.
And everyone knows that we women just chatter on and on, never lettin you poor guys get a word in edgewise. That's because the first 20 times we say something, you don't hear us.
Sometimes I'll see an interesting post title in the main discussion page run-down, and click on it. When I realize where I am, I don't post. I kinda thought this forum was for people looking for male input, whether it be women looking for male perspective, or men looking for other men to talk to. Men are, of course, welcome to post in any forum they like, and I kinda thought that to ask for any non-male-specific-views they'd post to the appropriate forum. If, for example, a man wants to ask a "what's up with my wife?" type question and get only sympathy/answers/advice from other men, he'd post in the dad's forum, but for both male and female answers, you'd think that Parents as Partners would be appropriate. Instead it seems that women weigh in here as well, and I'm not sure that's right. Kind of like a SAHM coming to the WAHM forum to give advice - you ask your questions in a certain forum for a reason.
Mama, homeschooler, midwife. DD (13yo), DS (11yo), DD (8yo), DD (3yo), somebody new coming in November 2013.
Originally Posted by seven_lux
Because on the odd occasion that there's men posting in here or there's a thread happening I find reading their viewpoint interesting.
I thought I woud just start expressing my opinion on any boards I feel like in the web site.
I mostly lurk. But now I am speaking out.
I not sure if I want to speak wih only guys. I like to think that men and women can discuss the issues on this website.
I guess the dads thing is here as a trickle down. Men lurking where wives are posting.
The original poster is a woman, and the responses from some of the women ("Check out the title of the website," she said snottily, "It's MOTHERING." Really? 'Cuz I don't think the OP is able to read. Thanks for pointing that out - twice).
Men - I think you do need the space to technologically scratch yourselves and drink beer, watch football, etc. And if your POV is different, meaning, male, oh well. Some of the women on these boards need to lighten up, open their eyes and understand that not everyone is, or wants to be, like them. Guys do talk differently with no women around b/c, IN GENERAL, women, myself included, tend to overanalyze, misinterpret and generally mangle male attempts to communicate.
And finally - and I will then remove myself and lurk only, with all due respect to you fabulous daddies - every other freakin' board, all 800 bajillion of them, TEEM with women. I think we should go elsewhere UNLESS WE HONESTLY WANT AND CAN RECEIVE THE MALE OPINION WE ASK FOR.
Thank you very much (I'll be here all week.....)
Never let your schooling interfere with your education. ~Mark Twain~
Sure, I've been jumped on for some of my posts, but hey, if I didn't deserve the pouncing it was still worth it to risk posting in the first place. If not I wouldn't come back.
Women, post away in here... dads, post more... when I'm not feeling too self-conscious (in general life altogether) I'll post too.
I like beer too... not as much as wine and on South Beach, the beer is out for the time being... at least until I get down to 150 lbs! (I'm struggling to get under that two hunnert mark... damn it sucks bein' 38). 'Merikaan football... blech, not my thing... no use fer it. OTOH, I'm open to guys posting on it if they need to... I won't bother even lurking, but no big deal, eh? Now talk about music, raising kids, growing food, cooking food, housework innovations, peace-making, sex, dealing/negotiating/navigating school systems and healthcare, literature, art, design, gadgets, outdoors, wild things, etc.... I'm there, man!