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#1 of 15 Old 01-17-2008, 04:31 PM - Thread Starter
 
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i just had a fight with my mom.. its so stupid. im living in her house till baby comes, its this situation that i knew would be hard, but i think its worth it to have a good birth.. but she is so hard to be around..especially now, being so pregnant and emotional and sensitive. she says things that really hurt me and usually i try to just let it slide, but today she attacked my parenting..saying things like "you dont take care of your kids. i do " and " you wont take care of him" refering to her foster baby whom i watch for her often. i know that those things dont matter, that i do care very well for my children. maybe not the way she would if she were me (i think im a way better mother than she has ever been..) because i dont buy or do things with them that she thinks is So important. but the worst part is that she did this all in front of my 5 year old who started crying because we were all going to go somewhere together, and i decided that i wasnt feeling up to it, so all of a sudden im this horrible mother, then she says im punishing my son because i wont let him go with her...like im going to let my verbally abusive mother take my crying baby with her after making me cry and get all upset. then i had to spend 15 minutes trying to explain to elwynn why what she did wasnt okay and how its not okay to say things like that to people, even if you are upset. please let me never do these things to my own children.

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Oh mama. I hope this babe comes out soon and you can be home.

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I'm not in your DDC but just wanted to say how stupid! You are nine months pregnant in a temporary situation. Usually your mother is not around all day and is not taking care of your kids. Routines get shaken up when someone is not in their own home, and right at the end of pregnancy. You'd think your mother would enjoy this time with her grandchildren, who will be gone home all too soon, and not complain or make sweeping generallizations about your parenting based on this particular time.

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Come on baby so you can all to your peaceful home! Hugs to you mamafern
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Hello,

I really feel for you. I have nothing to do with my mother, she is toxic. At some point, I just decided it was in my best interest to not have her around...it has made a big difference in my mental health, and relationships. I hope that your baby comes soon, so you can get out of her house.

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I have a similarly toxic relationship with my mom, so I can imagine how hard this must be for you. Here's to a speedy and lovely birth so you can get home soon and be mom-free to enjoy the new addition!

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I'm so sorry she did that Do you think she's getting the "my baby's overdue with her baby and I'm worried she isn't going to be OK" blues? Or is this just how she is?

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How unfair!
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uuugh. sending "come quicky baby" vibes your way, along with "go away mean mom" vibes... ::
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mamafern-

i wish i could say something that could help change your situation or offer a solution. if we could, i'd take you out to a batting cage or something, and we could hit some softballs really hard. that sounds nice right now. that, and tea.

aargh. families...

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Just offering a hug because... well, that just bites!


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i'm sorry you had to go through that today. i also hope that you get this baby out soon and can get home. hang in there.
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Just want to offer a . I do hope your baby comes soon. I know I love my mom very much, but I can't stand to be around her for more than a week without our relationship becoming terribly strained. (we live in different states.) I do hope that when you move back into your home, her ridiculous behavior will stop!
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