This is one of my "things"
It's not ridiculous that it bothers you....you feel what you feel, and that is fine.
But it would be ridiculous to not use the name, if you wanted to.
I think the whole concept (which, if yuo search, I'm sure you can find several rants from me on, lol!) on not using a name just because someone else "close" to you has, it utterly ridiculous. So is calling "dibs' on a name. If you like it, use it, regardless of whoever else might have already used it.
there are 6 BILLION people on the planet. Even if you believe you have *invented* the name - someone else probably already has it. And with a common name...come on. Alexandra - pretty darn common name, top 10 in many Euorpean countries, generally top 50 or better in the US. In fact, coincidentally, We were going to name our baby Alexandra if she had been a girl..but we got a little Alexander instead...
really..use your energy for something else....