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#1 of 13 Old 01-21-2008, 03:36 AM - Thread Starter
 
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If Jordan had been a girl, his (her) name was going to be Alexandra...Lexi for short. In fact, we thought it WAS a girl til 17 weeks and grew quite attached to that name. Well, obviously, we had a boy, but we were saving the name for next time if we have a girl. My BIL and SIL are expecting and recently found out they are having a girl. They have decided to use the name Alexandra...and call her Lexi. Is it crazy that this bothers me??
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Naw! You were in love with that name. It was part of your vision and dream. It feels like YOURS. Perhaps with time it'll bother you less though.

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Nope, not crazy at all. Something similar happened to me when my stepdaughter's mother was going to use "our" girl name for her new baby. Sure, we still could have used it but how weird would it have been for my SD to have 2 sisters with the same name? (As it turned out, neither of us used it - she changed her mind at the last minute, then we had 2 boys first and by the time we had a girl, we had sort of fallen out of love with the name.)

My stepdaughter also "informed" me during my pregnancy that I wasn't allowed to use the name she has picked out for her future daughter. It was funny that the name was on my list and I strongly had considered using it as the middle name. I didn't, only because I didn't want her to resent me forever.

Anyway, no not crazy. Did they know that was "your" name?
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Naw! You were in love with that name. It was part of your vision and dream. It feels like YOURS. Perhaps with time it'll bother you less though.
I agree!
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no that would really make me mad. i think naming is such an important process. i would be super pissed. i have pretty told everyone names that i have dibs on and threatened bodily harm to anyone that thinks of using them.
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names are hard.. i have a name that i really love, that ive thought of since being pregnant with my son..but my sil informed me that i wasn't allowed to use it because its similar to a name she has chosen for a boy child that isn't even conceived yet.. she says she told me the name, but i dont even remember it! but i feel like i cant use the name i like because it could cause conflict within the family

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Did they know it was a name you picked out and really loved?

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it would bug me, too /// did they know?

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Yep ridiculous.
This is one of my "things"
It's not ridiculous that it bothers you....you feel what you feel, and that is fine.
But it would be ridiculous to not use the name, if you wanted to.
I think the whole concept (which, if yuo search, I'm sure you can find several rants from me on, lol!) on not using a name just because someone else "close" to you has, it utterly ridiculous. So is calling "dibs' on a name. If you like it, use it, regardless of whoever else might have already used it.

there are 6 BILLION people on the planet. Even if you believe you have *invented* the name - someone else probably already has it. And with a common name...come on. Alexandra - pretty darn common name, top 10 in many Euorpean countries, generally top 50 or better in the US. In fact, coincidentally, We were going to name our baby Alexandra if she had been a girl..but we got a little Alexander instead...

really..use your energy for something else....

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yes they knew...well, she did, men are oblivious

Jess-you're completely right. I think I was just letting these post partum hormones get to me. I may not even like that name by the time we have a girl, which could be years from now, if ever. And if I do, who's to stop me from using it? Thanks for the reality check!

And everyone else...thanks for the support...it's nice to know that my feelings were at least a little justified...this is why I come here for support
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that would really rub my nerves also. sorry they stole it!

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I don't think that you were being ridiculous at all. You have a right to feel the way you feel, especially since it's someone so close to you that you will probably see all the time!
Chances are, though, that you will find a name you like even better.. so I'd let them have the name since they obviously don't have the capacity to be original or come up with something themselves! But aren't you wishing you had suggested Bertha or something as your favorite? haha..

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