My three adult-sized young people combined are more help and less extra work than exy ever was, but it's not as cut and dried what their roles should be. I try to appreciate what's offered and not impose too much, since Terran isn't THEIR baby and ds1 didn't even want me to TTC (because he thought I was too old and childbirth is so dangerous that I would surely DIE) but I still get angry that they don't automatically know that certain things, like mopping floors and bringing in wood from outside, are so much easier to do without a baby in a sling.
I also have communication issues about waking ds1 up for school: he's a sound sleeper and I totally relate to how he likes to take his time waking up and I LOVE our special times together when I'd spend a good hour making coffee and breakfast and gently bringing him to consciousness but I resent feeling obligated to do so now that Terran is awake more and my first "wake Christopher up" alarm always seems to go off the minute I finally get him settled down to sleep.
Working with baby is still going fantastically and Terran is a fabulous ambassador for AP; he mostly sleeps in the sling at work and nurses and doesn't detract from my ability to do the job at all. When he wakes up, he smiles and is cheerful and friendly.
However, since he doesn't sleep as much as he used to and requires more intellectual stimuli than just lying there nursing and watching and even has some fairly regular fussy periods every day that time's got to come from somewhere and that somewhere is between the hours of 10 PM and 9 AM.
I'm not complaining, though. Two and a half months old and no daycare, bottles, CIO, teevee, disposable dipes, plastic infant seat time etc. is something to be incredibly grateful for, not to complain about.
As for outside-the-immediate-family help, I've been blessed to have absolutely none of that. I didn't like it for the first batch of kids and didn't want it for this one. My house can be as messy as I want it and my freezer is already stocked so I can gnaw on half-frozen kale and summer squash to my heart's content without anyone screaming"YUCKI!" and ramming a Colonel McChicken down my throat.
Oh, and nobody without a genetic link has ever held Terran. dd held him once and ds1 has held him about five times, and other than the first time it's only when it's okay with Terran for only as long as it's okay with Terran.
Life isn't perfect by any means, but it's a lot better than I expected it to be.