ok so to the moms who have btdt how do you find time for intimacy with your dh?
Mine has a very strong libido and has since we met. Now I have never really been one to start things and this makes my dh very upset. It makes him feel as if I am not attracted to him and now he feels like I am using ds as an excuse. He is probably right, but he wants to dtd every day!!! I am too tired and it is not that I am not attracted to him b/c I am I just don't know how to make the first move. I think about things that we could do and then I never do them...I guess that is something I have to work on myself and stop being shy with my dh. I also feel like although he may respect all I am going through I don't know that he understands, or can feel what it is like. I know I have some work to do but I also feel like he does too. Like not to put so much pressure on me and make me feel bad for spending so much time with ds. And there has got to be other ways to be intimate other than sex...right?
give me some ideas....please.
I am thinking that we both need to sign a pact that I will work harder to show dh that i think he is amazing and attractive and that he will not put some much pressure on me and we will find other ways to be intimate and reconnect.
Allyn birthmom to S 3/12/03, placed in open adoption 4/06, married to W 6/22/07, mama to H 2/5/08, mama to M 8/26/12.