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#91 of 96 Old 07-28-2007, 02:37 PM
 
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Thanks, Sarah. You are probably right - I should blame my lack of decision-making capacity on hormones. Why not- they are responsible for everything else I am feeling these days!

Alisa- Horray!!!!! Wonderful sound and sight, those fabulous little heartbeats are!!!!!!

Amanda- I have already passed my first missed due date, and that was absolutely awful. It really is hard to think about anything else other than "where we should be" in our past pregnancy(ies) sometimes. I am trying to focus on the joys of this pregnancy, day by day, and that is helping.

I think it is just too difficult for those who have not experienced the loss of a pregnancy/baby to really understand what we have been through. In their awkwardness to not make us feel badly or remind us of our loss, they too often just move on and ignore it. Thinking that might help us to forget for a while. They have no idea that we never forget - not even for a second. But how could they understand????
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jillybeans- That's great to know that everything is on track......it helps feel a little better, but I know it's still hard.

I think people in general don't know what to say when someone has died. Most people have a hard time believing that you've bonded with a baby, since they are soo new. But, I truly feel that until you've experienced it for yourself, you may never know what it's like. I know that's how I was......I had many close friends MC and always felt sad for them, but chose not to say anything out of fear. After I MC, I called all of them up and apologized for my lack of understanding. I UNDERSTOOD~

Now.......I found this really great gift that I give to people that MC and have actually started selling them myself at a discounted price. Earth Mama Angel Baby sells this incredible Pregnancy/Baby Loss Kit. Inside the kit there is a Seeds of Hope packet (organic seeds to plant in remembrance), Healing Heart Hot Pack (for comfort), Healing Heart Mist (uplifting aromatherapy), Harmony Tea (rebalancing tea for your body), and Comfort Bath Blossoms (for those nice comfot baths). I've also made up a few smaller kits with the seeds, a planter pot, and the harmony tea. I can't tell you how wonderful it has been to be able to give someone this gift. I know I would have melted away and felt sooo loved to have received it when I was going through my tough time.

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Oh, I forgot to mention..............

So on our Ultrasound, the date was moved a bit to give me more room, since I was late last time. My midwife wanted to stretch the date as far as possible, so we went with the ultrasound date, which is March 4th. I was a week or so late with my DS, so it got me thinking last night. I lost my last baby on March 10th. I'm not sure if it would be sad or incredible to have this baby on the same date??

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I personally think it's sweet alisa. Our baby is due the same day that we found out we were pregnant with Riley. When I got my first post-m/c af, I asked my Riley to send me someone special, and he not only did that, he sent me a special day too.

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Our baby is due the same day that we found out we were pregnant with Riley. When I got my first post-m/c af, I asked my Riley to send me someone special, and he not only did that, he sent me a special day too.
Wow, jillybeans. That's nice. What a sweet connection to the babies.

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I was sort of thinking the same thing. It's hard to think I'll be holding a baby a year after I loss one, but it's sooo incredible to know the healing that has come from this little bean....including these little reminders~

Thanks guys....I wasn't sure if I would look like a wacko for actually wanting them to be the same date
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