Hello again! I'm wanting some advice on a totally different topic now!
We are planning a homebirth with a midwife. This is our first baby.
I basically want the midwife there to check the baby's heart rate from time to time, and to be there just in case something really rare happens, like a haemorrhage or a shocky baby who is having trouble breathing.
I've told them (two midwives, one of whom will actually be at the birth) that we want to do our own thing. They are totally fabulous.
DH wants to catch the baby, I don't want vaginal exams done, don't want my water broken, don't tell me when to "PUSH!" no cheerleading, etc. Basically, leave me and our baby alone and watch for anything unusual or alarming.
Question: Should I do cervical checks on myself? Are they useful?? Does anyone do these themselves during birth?
I can't really understand what good they do, unless you feel strange, or that labour has "stalled." My body will know when to push.
I felt my cervix last night, and it's really soft, I would say about 40% effaced when compared to my non-pregnant cervix. (I'm feeling for the "length" of my cervix when checking for effacement, right?) and about 1 cm dilated.
Interesting..... but is that information really that useful? Should I be doing checks during labour? Should I get DH to do them?
I want a private, primal, sexual birth. That's the way things were when DH and I made him or her, that's the way I want to birth.
DH wants a "basics of birth" book to read so he knows about dilation, effacement, transition, descent, perineum support, crowning, delivery, etc. He wants to do a "good job" of catching.
Should I just have him read the back section of Spiritual Midwifery for the "mechanics" of birth? I figured Experience of Childbirth by S.K. would be good for the philosophy of birth.
What do you all think?
Thanks in advance for any suggestions!