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Well, I'd have to reread it to be more specific, but it was good.
I had my dd in daycares from 18 mo through 3 yrs and we were very happy with them. I chose not to look for home childcare because I was afraid of the idea of one caregiver looking after my child with no supervision and no one else around to stop them from doing something wrong. THis is the #1 concern parents have with home childcare, according to my agency head.
There are safety issues with daycares too, though, the biggest being that in a centre with a lot of kids and multiple caregivers (and high turnover of caregivers) children can get lost in the shuffle and important instructions can get lost, no matter how many notes are put in files. The most dangerous times imo are when a child just starts in a daycare, when they are adapting (and being adapted to) the routines..
I provided care for a child who was abducted from a local daycare and taken on the run by a drug-addicted non-custodial parent, because a staff member didn't realize that that parent wasn't meant to pick up the child. The custodial parent gave up on daycares after getting the child back and came to me instead. There have also been daycares closed down in my area because a toddler was left outside in the play area and a baby was left sleeping in a crib when the staff went home (!)
Some of the interview questions PTG suggests are a bit unusual. I've heard other caregivers saying "I can't believe the parents asked me X. WTF?" when it was a question from Protecting the Gift. Again, I don't have a copy here, have to get it back from the library. I'll discuss that more when it comes to that chapter.
I see it as a HUGE big part of my job to help parents be comfortable with the care I provide, that their children are safe. I am with an agency, so a lot of the precautions it suggests are things I already have in place. And I am in Canada, so there are subtle differences in childcare practices here.
I have heard bad childcare stories from parents interviewing with me, but never a horror story (ETA -- well, except for the child abduction story) Most of the issues are more communication problems between parent and provider, differing expectations about money, hours of care, tv time, etc. A caregiving situation can be a bad fit, and not be unsafe, ykwim? The vast majority of caregivers in daycares and in dayhomes (what we call home daycares) love children and would give their own lives to keep their charges safe.
Also, I have clients that find me through my website, and I found PTG helpful in planning safe interview strategies. I mean, I have children in my home and have people I have never met who found me on the internet who want to come to my home, right? How do I know my children and I will be safe from them? So now I only do a first interview after hours when dh is home and am very very careful about giving my address out to anyone for any reason....