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I recently took some very cute photos of 11 month DS having some "naked time" outside on a blanket with (clothed) DH. Lots of funny faces and cute squeezable tush shots. I sent these photos, along with a bunch of others, to DS's grandparents and aunt. My dad maintains a personal family website (the domain name is just "his last name".com) and he's been posting photos of DS since he was born. I just saw that he put up all the new photos of DS, including the ones where he's naked and his penis is showing. Technically, my dad's site is public...anyone could arrive there, though I don't know how you would unless you were googling the last name or something. I don't know who amongst his family and friends even visits the website. I'm thinking, though, that the photos that show DS' genitals should not be on there. Am I overreacting?

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I agree with you so no, I do not think you are overreacting. I would ask him to remove the naked pictures of your son.

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I also agree with you. I'm sure if you ask him and explain to him the sitch, he will understand and remove the photos.

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Definitely agree.

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ITA as well.

It's a little safer as long as the captions on the photo don't say anything like naked baby or the like, or cute baby butt, that sort of thing....but still - anyone could come across those pictures through GOOGLE, yk? And those creepy people DO that sort of thing.

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I would just remove the penis ones, not the booty ones. Or if they are on photobucket, I've posted pics of DS1 nekkid where he had an ADORABLE face or something, and either cropped or put a black bar where it needed to go.

Then again I'm a bit more liberal with pic posting than some

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I wouldn't be comfortable with naked pictures on the internet. Too many weirdos out there. If the same happened in my family, I would explain why I was uncomfortable and ask that they be removed.

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I will be the voice of dissent here. Of course if you are uncomfrtable Op, then by all means, ask him to remove them. But I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Waht exactly are you afraid will happen if someone sees a picture of yoru sons penis or butt?
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If it makes you unconfortable I think its fine to ask they be removed.

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vbactivist - well, I know a few years ago creepy website admins were right clicking and stealing photos such as those to put on nasty fetish sites - so you can only imagine WHAT was happening with said photos. jmho, though.

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Your dad's site won't come up on google unless he submitted it to google. Google has an "index" of websites that their search 'bots "crawl" over every day. Unless his site is in the google index or sites that are in the index are linking to his site, it is not being read by the search bots and therefore will not come up in search. So IMHO there is very little risk of a perv accidentally stumbling onto it, unless your dad's site is linked to by a lot of other sites. (Or unless he submitted it to search engines -- which I'm just making an assumption that he did not.)

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I will be the voice of dissent here. Of course if you are uncomfrtable Op, then by all means, ask him to remove them. But I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Waht exactly are you afraid will happen if someone sees a picture of yoru sons penis or butt?
How would you feel if you saw that same picture on a child pornographer or some kind of fetishist's website? If that doesn't disturb or make you uncomfortable, then there's no reason to censor. Personally, the idea of someone getting off sexually from looking at pictures of my naked baby disturbs me enough to wish to prevent it.

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I can think of another reason not to have them out there which is that I have heard of DSS removing children who were photographed nude (not likely but I would not even want to be questioned). We're talking totally innocent sweet family photos. It's a reaction against said pornographers who are indeed out there and I think its crazy b/c there is nothing more sweet or innocent than a little naked baby but there you go. I would take them down. just my 2 cents.
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A lot of people seem to think that because it's online, everyone can see it. Not so. If the site has not been submitted to search engines, it won't come up in search results.
All my websites come up in searches and I've never submitted them to search engines.

Yes, I would ask him to remove them, not only for the sake of not having pervs see them but also because of the CPS issue.
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: A lot of people seem to think that because it's online, everyone can see it. Not so. If the site has not been submitted to search engines, it won't come up in search results.
This is absolutely not true. If you submit it to the search engines it comes up faster, but eventually their bots WILL find it and it WILL be listed. Mine is.. and I can tell you I never ever submitted it.
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I would ask him to take the pictures off the website. I wouldn't be the least bit comfortable with naked pictures of my children on the web.

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I can think of another reason not to have them out there which is that I have heard of DSS removing children who were photographed nude (not likely but I would not even want to be questioned). We're talking totally innocent sweet family photos. It's a reaction against said pornographers who are indeed out there and I think its crazy b/c there is nothing more sweet or innocent than a little naked baby but there you go. I would take them down. just my 2 cents.

There are no hard and fast rules about pictures of nude children. You see them as precious family photos. Prosecutor A sees them as cute little memories. Prosecutor B sees them as inappropriate, possible child pornography. Every one in your family connected to them, who took them, who posed with your son, who is displaying them may be arrested, prosecuted, labeled a sex-offender. NOT WORTH IT!
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How would you feel if you saw that same picture on a child pornographer or some kind of fetishist's website? If that doesn't disturb or make you uncomfortable, then there's no reason to censor. Personally, the idea of someone getting off sexually from looking at pictures of my naked baby disturbs me enough to wish to prevent it.
I would never find a picture of a child of mine on a child pornography or fetishists site since I don't frequent those sites.

Honestly I agree, if it bothers you OP ask him I'm sure he won't mind, but for ME it wouldn't be a problem, I think even the worst perverts are not into babies, anyways, they all have the weirdest turn ons, they could get more excited about a kid in a red sweater than a completely naked one.

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I think even the worst perverts are not into babies, anyways, they all have the weirdest turn ons, they could get more excited about a kid in a red sweater than a completely naked one.
And that is why I have NO pictures of my children on the internet anywhere and I refuse to let anyone else put pictures of my children online.
You're not over reacting if it makes you uncomfortable.

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vbactivist - well, I know a few years ago creepy website admins were right clicking and stealing photos such as those to put on nasty fetish sites - so you can only imagine WHAT was happening with said photos. jmho, though.
What was happening that was harming those parents or children?
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I would never find a picture of a child of mine on a child pornography or fetishists site since I don't frequent those sites.

Honestly I agree, if it bothers you OP ask him I'm sure he won't mind, but for ME it wouldn't be a problem, I think even the worst perverts are not into babies, anyways, they all have the weirdest turn ons, they could get more excited about a kid in a red sweater than a completely naked one.
this exactly. I am not saying the op should not ask for them to be removed. if she is uncomfortable - then remove them. I just dont' see what the big deal is with strangers seeing/using PICTURES of my children.
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I personally can't stand the thought of some UAV w***king off to pictures of my kids. Actually the thought of it makes my blood boil. People have all different feelings about this, though. Many women pose nude for pornographic magazines and have no qualms about strange men (and women) using their pictures while *pleasuring* themselves, but that would make feel....really....really....dirty. It's just a personal preference and feeling about one's own body and the same applies to the bodies of our children.
Oh, and there are pervs into babies, there are pervs for everything.

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i think that if you are uncomfortable with it, you should ask him to take them down. and i post pictures liberally i think, and i love naked baby pictures, but i don't think i would post them online.

i just realized that people doing online searches for child porn are linking to my blog...on a daily basis, which is creepy, i think, even if no physical harm is coming to my dd, it's gross and unnecessary.

while i don't necessarily have an issue with porn in general, i do think that child porn is unspeakably vile...and wrong. even if that is innocent naked baby pics being used as pornographic images. (obviously not wrong of a parent to take or have the innocent pics, but for someone to misuse them.) and also, for adult porn, i think that participants should be consenting - not have pornographic images of them used by others for whom they were not intended.

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I would never find a picture of a child of mine on a child pornography or fetishists site since I don't frequent those sites.

Honestly I agree, if it bothers you OP ask him I'm sure he won't mind, but for ME it wouldn't be a problem, I think even the worst perverts are not into babies, anyways, they all have the weirdest turn ons, they could get more excited about a kid in a red sweater than a completely naked one.

A lot of mothers here found pictures of their cloth diapered babies on a fetishist's website not so long ago. No one here frequented those types of sites. It came up during a search for something related to cloth diapers. It happens. It sucks and it makes many of us more careful about what we post.

There was a picture of a child using a breastpump from breastfeeding.com that somehow turned up on a child porn website that was come across somehow online a few years back. Sometimes the referral sites/links can be seen by site admins. None of us frequent these type of sites, but the web really isn't a big place.

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What was happening that was harming those parents or children?
Eh....well, I don't know that it's harming them, I just don't like it. It grosses me out. And I loathe the idea of it being MY child that some creep is perpetuating his/her sickness with. That's basically it.

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I have no idea where you're getting that. It is simply not true. I have a website that I never submitted anywhere and it most assuredly comes up on all search engines. I have about 4 websites that I created for other people... ditto.
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Thanks all, for your thoughtful replies. I ended up asking my dad to take them down, which he did. I do have one of the photos on my Facebook page, that only "Friends" are able to see. That's safe from pervs on the internet, right? (assuming none of my "Friends" are pervs...)

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Your father could also password-protect the site, so only family members would be able to access it.

Where "outside" were the photos taken? Hopefully in your fenced, private backyard. So many phones have cameras these days.
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It wouldn't bother me at all, but the important thing is that it bothers YOU. I'm sure your father would not want to make you unhappy or uncomfortable, so tell him.
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