I'm sure they know of the warning lable.. so why do they do it?! UGH. I'm scared to say something and have them just say "oh we're always right there anyways." But honestly. There was a reason these things were recalled. It only takes a second for them to flip backwards onto the floor.
They are very responsible parents in every other way.. I don't know what to do. I had the PM window open, and then decided against it. I DUNNO!!
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Which you'd think would be a common sense thing, so that's why I'm suprised they're doing it, and posting pics of it on facebook, no less... I dunno. Maybe they aren't aware. Sometimes people just don't realize the risk, I guess.
I hope more people reply to this thread. If everyone thinks I should say something I will. But I'd hate to stick my nose in if not. It's a tough call.
For me it's not offensive if someone tells me their own experience, for instance "I could never sleep with my baby, I'd be so afraid I'd roll over on them! Did you hear about that story in xyz?" doesn't bother me at all! It's clearly a true statement. That person feels the way they feel & they clearly heard something that convinced them they had a right to feel that way.
"You know the AAP says cosleeping increases the risk of SIDS?" has a different feel to it, KWIM? It's more of an absolute... it seems like a judgement... "I'm an authority; this is dangerous; you're doing it anyway."
That said, sometimes there's just no pleasing people. I've seen people post on MDC completely annoyed by people's "I'm afraid to sleep with my baby" comments. Who knows.
You know your friends. There are ways to bring something up in a way that doesn't "sound" like you're bringing it up. If you feel you must, do it that way instead
We don't have the same friends, but I'd assume my friends put their kid up there to take some pictures
I've been trying to think of ways to word it but it always comes out sounding all high and mighty....
Ack. I'm gonna sleep on it. Keep the comments coming, girls
I wouldn't say a thing. I see my friends post pics of things on fb all. the. time. that I would not do 'cause I think it's just plain wrong or unsafe - but they're smart, educated people who can make their own decisions.
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Could it be that they only put it on the table to take the photos?
When my DD was a newborn, I would sometimes put her carrier seat on the table to take a photo, esp. a close up of her face because it was more comfortable than squatting on the floor so soon after her birth, but I never left her in the seat unattended.
Areia, The kitchen table one, maybe. But the camping one, probably not.
I did once move a baby in an infant seat that was set on a couch and the mother left the room. The kid was rocking back and forth and I just feared the little thing was going to rock face-first off the couch. I'm still glad I did it, but the mom was a bit miffed when she came back.
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Either way I wouldn't say anything. if she really is leaving the baby on teh counter, and you say something, do you really think she is going to change? Probably not, she will just get defensive. Unless she specifically asks you, or unless it has come up naturally in the conversation, it is pointless. People are not interested in hearing how you think what they are doing is unsafe, true or not.
That being said, I was comfortable with my baby on the couch when he fell off. lol. They get stronger!
I say don't say anything.
On the other hand, it would hurt to post the recall info link on your page and assume that she will see it.
This is true, and this is why I'm leaning against saying anything. Her baby is also currently so small her shoulders barely come above the backrest lol.
We all have different comfort levels when it comes to the safety of our babies. In my opinion, formula feeding is not healthy, and at times, can be dangerous, but I don't make a habit of making comments like that to parents who formula feed. It's their choice as an educated parent, and they have the right to do as they please.
On the other hand, I did have a few friends make comments to me about the Bumbo, and it was easily brushed off after I explained that I wasn't worried about it. So in the end, it might depend on how sensitive the parent is.
We all have different comfort levels when it comes to the safety of our babies. I don't make a habit of making comments like that to parents who formula feed. It's their choice as an educated parent, and they have the right to do as they please.
Totally. People don't like to be judged period, but especially as a parent. Parents judging other parents is definitely "Casting Stones in Glass Houses" territory, KWIM? We all have different ideas.
Since your friends are "better-than-you-ist," saying something almost guarrantees you wont be invited over to any bbq's any time soon
Also, unless your friends are total idiots, I'm sure they know that by placing their child on a table there is a risk of them falling. They're probably just comfortable with that risk & feel it's minimal considering their circumstances.
I don't know how many times my kid has fallen off our bed. She napped in our bed alone as a baby & still sleeps in it on occassion (she's 3). I'm comfortable with the risk I'd be pretty amazed if someone thought perhaps I hadn't considered it was a risk If I had a serious kind of ego going, I'd assume they thought I was an idiot!
DS flipped his bouncy all the way over yesterday, he is only 4 months, non mobile, can't sit, etc... yet he managed to do that! He was on the floor on the rug, but I did have a friend with a 2 month who ended up in the ER because he knocked his bouncy off the kitchen counter. Things happen.
If it was me, I'd just say something about how a "friend's" baby fell out of a Bumbo on a table and you are so glad they weren't injured.
Now if you are in the room with the baby on the table then you can say "oh that's freaking *me* out and *I'm* afraid she will fall" which makes if about *you* and that seems fine to me. But to post on Facebook so everyone can see how much more concerned and informed you are than the parents eh? it would rub me the wrong way as the parent.
Everyone always thinks it won't happen to them, hence the reason they are doing it in the first place. My DD2 fell off the counter and broke her clavicle with 2 parents within arms reach, no one could catch her fast enough. It only took a second.
Did you really not know there was a risk of your child falling off the counter when you put her up there? Would someone giving you the Public Service Announcement of "You know, she could fall off the counter" made a difference in your risk assesment?
I mean seriously - I cannot imagine anyone putting their child anywhere but the floor and not realizing there is some chance they will fall down. That would deserve a true idiot's license.
I was always within arms reach but they spent a fair bit of tummy time, time in the bumbo and in the bouncy chair.
It's a calculated risk thing to me.
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