This has been keeping me awake at night. I live in NC where home birthing is a no-no. The only county I know of that you can have a home birth with a mw is an hour away.
After reading so much on how women are treated at hospitals and how they have such over zealous doctors, I'm really not wanting to give birth at a hospital. I am really scared to. My first two were born at the hospital. My first I was given no choice. They told me what to do and did what they wanted to do. I was young, I had no idea what my rights were, and they seen me as someone that had no pre-natal care. I had just moved back into town a few weeks before and had not got to see the health dept yet. My first appointment was the day after I gave birth. So they didn't have my records and kept treating me like I had not had any prenatal care. Lucky for me labor was quick and went well.
My second didn't go as smooth. I think it was partly because my mom was in the room and she made it harder for me to be strong. (who needs to be strong when mommy is there?) Ds's labor was a little longer and I knew more about what I wanted to do and what I didn't want. I had a great mid wife too. She understood what I wanted and helped me do it. But it did not go to plan.
And after the births how they came in and poke and prod you and the baby. It is really annoying. How they come in and ask how long did they nurse.. which side how long ago. I don't know... I'm just trying to enjoy my baby here I'm not wanting to keep time.
My hospital births were not as bad as some of the stories I hear but how long can my luck hold out? I don't like how they have "hospital policies" that keep you from making some choices in your care and your baby's care.
I would like to have a home birth this time around. I could always go UC but dh isn't so sure about that, and really doesn't want to. I'm also not sure if I could pull it off. And the whole...What if something goes wrong and they send cps after my family because I didn't have my birth at the hospital like a sane person?
North Carolina sucks!!! I wish I felt safe here to have my baby the way I see fit.