I know many of us say the same thing...I just want a healthy baby...and some of us are out right with saying we have a preference...which is great...but what about all the moms who say they really don't care. Do you really not care? Do you really not have a deep-down secret desire for one gender over the other?
With my first PG, I was so desperate to get get PG, I was thrilled with any baby at all...I would have been happy with a baby seal. But as my PG progressed, I really wanted a boy. I come from a family of 4 girls and both of my sisters have girls. I relished the idea of being the first one to have a boy. Plus my DH really wanted a boy. I spent my whole PG dreaming about all the mother/son moments...esp his wedding...I'm so odd...my dreams came true and I have the most perfect little boy.
This PG was a total surprise as it required no fertilty treatment at all. Based on the timing, it would make sense that I am having a girl. I get kinda excited about the idea of having a girl. For one, if my fertilty struggles take shape again and this ends up being my last PG, I like the idea of having a boy and a girl and being able to experience being a mother to both. Secondly, my mother died when I was 10 and I've always wanted to experience certain mother/daughter moments...not that I want to relive my childhood thru my child but I would love to be on the mothering end of buying my daughter's first bra...prepping for my daughter's wedding, teaching her how to cook, etc...times I really missed my own mother. Lastly, I think it would be a great relationship btwn my two children...I envision the protective older brother looking out for his little sister...
On the other hand, I often daydream about having another boy. I love the idea of jack having a little brother to wrestle with and do all sorts of rugged things with. I see them giving nuggies to each other and playing football with their dad...I see a very tender relationship brewing.
So I love the idea of having a boy or a girl b/c my future fantasies are vivid for both...and yes I know they are just that, fantasies...and life will create their relationship as it was meant to be, not by my dreams...
However, I think I secretly am pulling for one gender over the other and just can't quite admit it. Why do I feel so twisted about feeling a slight preference? Does anyone else feel this way...particularly those of you who constantly say you really don't care either way...you don't have to admit which you prefer, but do you secretly have a slightly skewed opinion?
With my first PG, I was so desperate to get get PG, I was thrilled with any baby at all...I would have been happy with a baby seal. But as my PG progressed, I really wanted a boy. I come from a family of 4 girls and both of my sisters have girls. I relished the idea of being the first one to have a boy. Plus my DH really wanted a boy. I spent my whole PG dreaming about all the mother/son moments...esp his wedding...I'm so odd...my dreams came true and I have the most perfect little boy.
This PG was a total surprise as it required no fertilty treatment at all. Based on the timing, it would make sense that I am having a girl. I get kinda excited about the idea of having a girl. For one, if my fertilty struggles take shape again and this ends up being my last PG, I like the idea of having a boy and a girl and being able to experience being a mother to both. Secondly, my mother died when I was 10 and I've always wanted to experience certain mother/daughter moments...not that I want to relive my childhood thru my child but I would love to be on the mothering end of buying my daughter's first bra...prepping for my daughter's wedding, teaching her how to cook, etc...times I really missed my own mother. Lastly, I think it would be a great relationship btwn my two children...I envision the protective older brother looking out for his little sister...
On the other hand, I often daydream about having another boy. I love the idea of jack having a little brother to wrestle with and do all sorts of rugged things with. I see them giving nuggies to each other and playing football with their dad...I see a very tender relationship brewing.
So I love the idea of having a boy or a girl b/c my future fantasies are vivid for both...and yes I know they are just that, fantasies...and life will create their relationship as it was meant to be, not by my dreams...
However, I think I secretly am pulling for one gender over the other and just can't quite admit it. Why do I feel so twisted about feeling a slight preference? Does anyone else feel this way...particularly those of you who constantly say you really don't care either way...you don't have to admit which you prefer, but do you secretly have a slightly skewed opinion?