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#1 of 11 Old 02-18-2008, 02:18 PM - Thread Starter
 
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For reasons that I dont really want to go into and dont want to hear how wrong I am about, DH and I have decided to not try for a VBA2C and schedule a RCS. I am coming to terms with it and doing everything I can do make it as happy as possible, but there is still a part of me that is quite sad. Anyway....no point dwelling.

But I have my ERCS scheduled for March 31st at 7.30am. Which makes me 16.5 hrs 'not in this DDC', but I would miss you far too much to leave and since I am still a April Mommy really you cant get rid of me.

Anyway, just wanted to update with our little bit of news.

Mama to nine gorgeous babies, with finale #10 due April'14.
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It is a super tough decision to make. But it sounds like you're focused on the goal of getting a healthy baby to the outside.

And its WAY too late to leave this DDC.

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I know it's a tough choice.

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We wouldn't let you escape even if you tried!!
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Big hugs...I know how hard it is to face a big change in plans like that. I wish you a peaceful birth no matter how it happens!

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to you and either way you'll have a beautiful little bean to add to your family. Peace to you tonight mama and you have my support. You make the best decision for your family, of course you would!
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I can't even imagine having to make that choice.

And if anyone, on a board or IRL, gives you flak about it just tell me and I'll sit on them. I'm fat enough to squish them so they can't bug you anymore!!

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I feel for you totally. I'm planning an HBAC myself. You may have already looked at this book, but Birthing From Within has a good chapter in it on giving birth when you have to have a c-section. Also, you probably know there are things you can do to make the birth slower and gentle than just a surgery... like requesting that the cord not be cut right away but left attached until pulsing stops. Making sure you get to breastfeed and all that before they take the babe to the nursery. I got to keep DD the whole time I was in the recovery room. It was a blessing. I thank God for that since my c-section was coerced and unnecessary. If you can arrange to have someone be in the hospital with you to help you out, so you can request rooming in.

Anyway, again I hope all the best for you. A happy and healthy birth.

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It sounds like you're going into the decision fully informed. Just focus on that healthy baby you're going to have!
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It is nobody else's business why you and your SO made that decision especially since it sounds as if you are very informed and aware and want the best possible outcome for your baby. I am sure it must have been a difficult decision but know that you can still have a wonderful hospital birth. I am delivering at a hospital too and am fully prepared to stand up for myself to ensure the birth babe and I deserve.

You are still an april mama to us!!
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Statistically speaking, probably at least 10% of the mamas on this board will have surgical births. :-/ Sucks, but sometimes, it's the right choice. So, out of more than 100 of us in this DDC, there will probably be no fewer than a dozen c-sections. You will NOT be alone.

You could look at it as taking one for the team ;-). If I manage to get through this birth without any new holes in my body, I'll thank you for it, how about that? ;-)
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