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#1 of 147 Old 06-01-2008, 05:11 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Well it's June, so we should be in the majority now, right? Come on all you preggy ladies, it's nice on the other side!!! : (I think that first tomato came from Angela ... unless she's busy having her baby - haven't heard from her in a few hours!

Anyway, thought I'd kick off a new thread. At a local MDC meet-up a little bit ago, another mama was talking about a gauze wrap by Gypsy Mama. I just looked it up, and now I'm in love . This is dangerous stuff! But I do like the idea of a super lightweight two-shouldered carrier. And geeze, these are just so pretty! And you can do so many carries! Including a newborn back carry (not for the faint of heart I'm sure ).

If I could find one used I would pounce on it, but I haven't turned up exactly what I want so far ...

Sophie is doing okay. Still having some reflux-type episodes, but the frequency has gone down. I'm just riding things out for now, continuing to try to find things to help her, and also hoping her system just matures. Fast. She was super gassy and squirmy last night. Bah.

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I hope she continues to get better!

we really have nothing to complain about, but whether it's just the very hard PG (and delivery) or being older (or both) we are in agony with newborn sleep here.

we've started using sposies at night (so we don't have to change the freakin diaper once an hour at least) and even got a paci to use during his worst period. : I'm sure my crunchier friends will tar and feather me.

I'd really like a blood transfusion or epoietin shot, but I doubt those are in my future. I do so miss my blood.
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Madilynn is 5 weeks old today and doing great. She has a little cold and so do I- but we are just nursing ALOT and using saline nose drops and suctioning to keep her breathing clear. She feels kindof crappy and so do I, but hopefully we will get over this gunk soon. She is currently 11lbs 2 oz and is smiling all the time at us now..she started smiling at 4 weeks- but loves to coo and really bust them at us now..lol!

Not too much else going on- all my bleeding has stopped so thats good for me..I hate pads!

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Shanana, I LOVE that wrap too. I have become semi-obsessed with carriers but they are so darn expensive so I think my new hobby will be making some - in my spare time....lol

Ian is getting better about sleeping during the day but if he isn't on me, he isn't sleeping. He did take a nap on daddy last night, though. He is still sleeping really well at night, I can usually get at least a 4 hour stretch.

I think AF might have come back already

I'm hoping that's not the case since it's only been 3 weeks but I had all but just about stopped bleeding and now it's started back up again...ewww. I was hoping for at least a small reprieve.

It's getting easier managing the 2 lo's but only at the sacrifice of housework
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We are doing pretty good here. My DH went out of town for the weekend(hes back today) and of course i was sick as a dog. Link seemed to eat a lot last night, but i just kept him in the bed the whole time instead of transferring back into the bassinet. That leaves me not sleeping very well but i am planning to take a nap this afternoon. I have my last postpartum appt tomorrow and I am trying to get the gifts together. Also my dad and sister are coming to town this week and that is super exciting.
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Well, we are discovering that Declan is a much fussier baby than DS#1 - I don't think we knew how good we had it! He is just normal fussy and not screaming or anything, but he complains a bit after eating, especially in the early evenings. I know the evening thing is pretty common for this age, but DS#1 neverfussed at all, really, unless he was super duper full and had to power puke (rare). So it is kinda like being a first time parent all over again...!?

And I can hardly believe it but we bought a second-hand Baby Bjorn at a consignment sale today. I have tried Declan in the mei tei and in a couple of different carries in a pouch sling and more often than not, he refuses to settle. It seems to have something to do with when he stretches out and his feet hit fabric (at least that is what I convinced myself of!) so we figured it was at least worth a try to use something where his feet could hang free and clear. Eventually he can sit that way in the mei tei but it's too big right now. Anyway, I was always pretty adament about using slings versus the mainstream dangling legs carrier (isn't it supposed to be better ergonomically?), but I guess you gotta be flexible....!

Anyone else still have some residual jaundice? Declan does and it is starting to freak me out a little, even though the midwife isn't concerned...

Finally, Christine/Naturemama3, I hear you on the pacifier. I am trying to hold out to 6 weeks just to be sure my milk is nice and settled, but we are inching closer to trying it asap. I would happily nurse him for comfort in fussy times but he latches on and then gets very mad when the milk lets down!
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This is my first post in the postpartum check in. Yay. Xander turned 1 week old yesterday and is doing great. He is a big guy and eats nonstop, sometimes every hour for 5 hours straight. It gets pretty tiring, but I figure my body has to catch up eventually. Right????? I feel like I am barely keeping up with him and yes, I have used a paci a few times too. But I figure since he is still latching on like a pro and still eating tons, that it is ok.

I am so happy to not be pregnant too. No nausea since he was born and aside from still being a wee bit sore in the nether regions, I feel great and am loving every moment with my new little guy.
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I have two free hands to post! Baby is just a little more than two weeks old, and he's suddenly eating all the time. It's crazy. He was well above his birth weight at the two week check on Friday. Sleeps a good five hour stretch at night, wakes to eat/diaper then sleeps again until sunrise or so. I love co-sleeping-- he's so snuggly in the bed at night. Now we just need to figure out the best way to get DH back into bed with us; he's on the aerobed now as he doesn't feel safe sleeping next to DS.

Started EC from the start and have caught a few poops and lots of pees (and missed lots too ). It's exciting.

Overall, healing pretty well, though I'm still mega tired.

DH goes back to work tomorrow, and I'm nervous.

And now babe's crying-- time to feed, I guess...
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Gotta start by saying this little guy has stamina! He actually stayed awake for 3 hours straight through church and wasn't at all fussy! Impressive
I have to fight the sleep hormones (prolactin I believe) because middle of the night feedings are just so not helping.
1. he takes 20 minutes to nurse now - improvement over 40!
2. I keep falling asleep mid-feeding
3. he keeps falling asleep mid-feeding
4. I keep forgetting to turn the light off because of #2 and 3 haha

He's such a content baby, he doesn't seem to sleep the day away like DS1 did at this stage but he's happy when he's awake so I can't really criticize.

I feel he's finally gaining signifigantly, when I picked him up last night it seemed to be a drastic difference. His face is also filling out and his diapers are starting to fit him a little better.

Okay, anyone else have a double diaper baby? Every time and I mean EVERY time I change him, he needs to be changed again within 10 minutes from either poop or leaking. So we're going through a PILE of diapers. Fortunately we CD so it's just a matter of washing/drying but still!

Mmmmmm my baby still smells new despite being 2 weeks old. I'm not big on bathing him constantly, especially since he's still peeling. It's more fun to give him a massage with almond oil. And this way he still smells brand new.

Somehow people have figured that it's easier to leave the 2nd child than the first.
Well HELLO! I was suffering from separation anxiety today because DH and MIL were holding him for awhile instead of me. And MIL actually thinks that I'm ready to leave him with her for a couple hours while DH and I go see a movie. Ummmm no.

I'm tempted to introduce a bottle soon but we're still working on nursing. He's latching much better but still "clicks" a fair bit - any tips? Guess I should go ask in the bf'ing forum about that. And he has a hard time finding the nip on his own so until those two issues are resolved, and he's gaining a LOT of weight each week, the bottles will stay in the cupboard.

DH and I - totally winging life with our four children, DS1 (6.5yrs), DS2 (5yrs), DD (3yrs) and DS3 (1)!

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Kate is now officially a month old today. I can't believe that she is already this old. She is getting so big, though she is fussy when she is awake. I do wish she was a bit more content when set down. She likes to be worn basically all the time. I put her in the Ergo and off we go, but it is quite hard to nurse her in that. Haven't figured it out yet.

Does anyone else get irritated when friends and spouses complain about being tired? It irks me to no end!
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We are here. Little Mac is doing really good, he's already up to 10 lbs and just growing and changing so FAST! I can't believe how fast it all seems to be going.

As for me, I'm having some major anxiety attacks. My whole body will just start shaking, and the rescue remedy isn't helping. I'm honestly considering meds at this point. This week has been horrendous. I don't even know where to start

Z moved out today, and is planning to move the rest of his things on tues. I feel so confused, and have been crying non-stop for about 3 days now. I look at Mac and just start balling because I can't understand any of this. I'm trying desperately not to lose it, I need to be strong for Mac, my other children and myself - but man, it's super hard.

It wasn't this hard to be a single parent before.

Ladies, please (whatever your beliefs may be) pray for us. We really could use some goodness right now.

I don't really have a huge support network, and I needed to just tell someone and get out of my own head. This should be the happiest time right now, and I feel like I'm losing that
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Kara. I hope that whatever is going on resolves quickly.

Also - I am a huge advocate for anxiety meds if you need them and nothing else is working. If it will help you and make your life better until you can get a handle on things without them, I say go for it. And don't feel bad or guilty about it.
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Somehow people have figured that it's easier to leave the 2nd child than the first.
Well HELLO! I was suffering from separation anxiety today because DH and MIL were holding him for awhile instead of me.
Oh I am so happy to hear I am not the only one that can't handle not holding baby! I don't remember being this way with DS#1 (well, maybe a bit)...but we were a bit slower to bond, partly because, I think, there were so many people around us the first few days that wanted to hold him alot (hence, this time we took a couple of days to be totally alone as a family, what a difference it made)! So maybe I am ultrasensitive this time. But last weekend we had family here and my SIL was holding him for over an hour (after MIL holding him for probably 15-30 minutes...so like almost 2 hours total) and let me tell you, I was getting VERY tense!!!

kalisage, I am so sorry you are going through this Sending positive vibes and strength your way...
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Kara I'm so sorry you're going through that right now. I separated from my ex-husband when my twins were 9 months or so and it was horrible. I had a LOT of anxiety attacks and I did go on meds for it.

If you need to talk or anything, just PM me. I wish we all lived closer and could be an IRL support network for you.
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Kalisage- lots of hugs, i am sorry you are going through this now. You are in my thoughts.

Poppy is a week old today, she has already changed so much. It makes me sad too knowing how few these days of newborness are, as much as i am looking forward to her growing up i want to treasure every moment. We went out for the first time today, just down to the market to get some fruit and lunch, poppy did great, until we were coming home, as we pulled onto the high way she started crying and there was nowhere to pull over luckily we were only 2 mins from home. But the sound of her crying makes me physically sick, my mum was driving and she started to panic too, she hates babies crying. I felt like such a bad mum, but there was nothing i could do.

I wore one of my slings today for the first time, and someone asked me if i had a cat in there. DH loves the sling, he wore her for an hour whilst i had a nap, they both were happy, he is still a bit akward with it though, he cant seem to put it on right.

Poppy goes through heaps of nappies too, at least 15 a day more like, yesterday was insane i think maybe one hour was not changing or feeding her, how can a newborn be awake that long? the good thing is that after that my milk supply has settled down, so no more engorement. Breastfeeding is going awesome, i have had no nip pain, and very little engorgement so far.
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My babies are 12 days old today!~

They are...uncomplicated children. I won't use the "E" word because that would just be asking for it. Don't worry though, Isabella is being enough of a PITA to more than make up for it. Once a high needs baby, always a high needs baby?

Bear just got her first bath because she blew out up her back to her HAIRLINE! Glad I bought that bath sling and Aveeno last night! I knew it was coming, but I HATE bathing my newborns. I do so love how they smell.

We're just hanging out, waiting for my mom to get here on Wednesday. Being home alone with all 6 kids isn't too bad until about 4pm and then I'm tired and cranky. We went to the zoo with everyone yesterday and that was fun! We had to arrange transportation and the hardest part was installing FIVE car seats. I can't wait until we buy our new, bigger, van this summer.

That's all from me. Ben is making "feed me noises"...
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Battymama - I know what you mean about the crying!

I don't remember it bothering me this much with DS1 either because it's normal for babies to cry. But Everett? Well somehow I figure since he hasn't been traumatized since birth because of having a UC etc. then he shouldn't ever have to cry
DH keeps trying to calm me down and remind me that it's okay for a baby to cry a little but honestly, it just upsets me SO much!

DH didn't understand at first too because it's so unlike me to act like that, I'm usually a very easy going parent. But once I explained it to him he seems to be much more comforting.

What also doesn't help is that Everett has tears already! DS2 waited till he was 2 months before he had tears, instead he had this magnificient pouty lip lol! but the tears just break my heart.

DH and I - totally winging life with our four children, DS1 (6.5yrs), DS2 (5yrs), DD (3yrs) and DS3 (1)!

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kalisage - i am so sorry! somehow with my derrrr post partum brain i forgot you are dealing with anxiety. and i didn't know you are splitting with your partner. what timing! i will definitely send up some prayers for you.
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Hi everyone. I keep meaning to post but time is short! Post Partum has been a bit tough. I'm feeling good but we're having a few problems. I'm having trouble with Gage's latch and have bleeding nipples since Thursday. Now I also have cracks. It hurts like hell to say the least. Since he's either sleeping or nursing, they aren't getting a chance to heal.

Poor Gage is not a happy baby. As I mentioned he's either sleeping or nursing. Anything in between involves constant screaming. He's never awake and content. It makes me so sad. The worst is night time, he just cries and cries. DH has slept with him on his chest for the last couple of nights, it's the only way we get sleep.

My 2 year old has a bad cold. On top of a difficult adjustment for him, he's sick.

My incision was bleeding so I went to the doctor this morning. She said something about a blood clot underneath ? and had to open it back up. Thankfully it's not infected but she had to clean it out (only the last couple of inches) and pack it. I'm on antibiotics and have to go back again tomorrow to have it all done again. She said we should know by now how often I'll have to do it, if it's a lot they'll get me home health care.

DH told me I'm doing too much and I admit I have been. I've been feeling so good so I'm doing a lot. Not because I have to, my mom and Jim are doing it all, but because I want to. I'm up and down the stairs a lot, but DH has said enough. He was going to go back to work Wednesday but he's taking at least another few days. He doesn't want me overdoing it.

I'm still in good spirits, I get my down moments but I have so much support here at home that it helps a lot.

Hopefully now that I'm going to be resting more I'll have more computer time and can catch up. Unfortunately I have to go. Gage has his first appointment today and we're taking Holden to check his cough.

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We are here. Little Mac is doing really good, he's already up to 10 lbs and just growing and changing so FAST! I can't believe how fast it all seems to be going.

As for me, I'm having some major anxiety attacks. My whole body will just start shaking, and the rescue remedy isn't helping. I'm honestly considering meds at this point. This week has been horrendous. I don't even know where to start

Z moved out today, and is planning to move the rest of his things on tues. I feel so confused, and have been crying non-stop for about 3 days now. I look at Mac and just start balling because I can't understand any of this. I'm trying desperately not to lose it, I need to be strong for Mac, my other children and myself - but man, it's super hard.

It wasn't this hard to be a single parent before.

Ladies, please (whatever your beliefs may be) pray for us. We really could use some goodness right now.

I don't really have a huge support network, and I needed to just tell someone and get out of my own head. This should be the happiest time right now, and I feel like I'm losing that

Mama - big : prayers and thoughts coming your way. Don't be hard on yourself, you're going through so much right now. There's nothing wrong with taking some medication if you need it. You need to take care of yourself so you can take care of your kids.

We're here if you need us!

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Ladies, thank you! I'm feeling more optimistic today, just piecing life back together. I have an appt with my reg doc, I'm hoping there may be some herbal concoction she has up her sleeve to get me thru this part. I really do appreciate your prayers & thoughts
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skullcap and motherwort are good for postpartum anxiety.
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kara. glad you're having a better day, and i hope you find something that works for you, med or not. i've dealt with anxiety in the past, and sometimes just having the meds on hand can help, even if you don't take them. you're going through so much right now, the anxiety/panic is understandable; you'll be in my thoughts.
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we really have nothing to complain about, but whether it's just the very hard PG (and delivery) or being older (or both) we are in agony with newborn sleep here.

we've started using sposies at night (so we don't have to change the freakin diaper once an hour at least) and even got a paci to use during his worst period. : I'm sure my crunchier friends will tar and feather me.
The lack of sleep is killing me! Sophie is a pretty good sleeper, but the gas makes her so freakin' squirmy! Even in the co-sleeper she keeps me awake because I can hear her thrashing around in there. But no tarring and feathering here. You do what you gotta do.

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Started EC from the start and have caught a few poops and lots of pees (and missed lots too ). It's exciting.
Sophie seemed to go through a growth spurt at 2 weeks too. I remember her nursing constantly. Way to go on the EC! I am feeling too overwhelmed at the moment, and also the logistics intimidate me. May I ask your technique? Are you going bare bottom? Prefold/loincloth? Split pants? etc. It's the whole removing the clothes and diaper that literally get in the way for me. Yeah. I'm lazy. How was your first day with dh gone?

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Mmmmmm my baby still smells new despite being 2 weeks old.

I'm tempted to introduce a bottle soon but we're still working on nursing. He's latching much better but still "clicks" a fair bit - any tips? Guess I should go ask in the bf'ing forum about that. And he has a hard time finding the nip on his own so until those two issues are resolved, and he's gaining a LOT of weight each week, the bottles will stay in the cupboard.
Sophie just smells like spit up . I'm also thinking of introducing the bottle soon (she'll be 5 wks on Th). When you say "clicks", can you elaborate? Sophie sometimes breaks her latch while sucking, but then re-seals right away. Is that what you mean? It bugs me (not physically, though) but doesn't seem to bother her. I've just assumed it's a positioning thing.

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Z moved out today, and is planning to move the rest of his things on tues. I feel so confused, and have been crying non-stop for about 3 days now. I look at Mac and just start balling because I can't understand any of this. I'm trying desperately not to lose it, I need to be strong for Mac, my other children and myself - but man, it's super hard.

It wasn't this hard to be a single parent before.

Ladies, please (whatever your beliefs may be) pray for us. We really could use some goodness right now.

I don't really have a huge support network, and I needed to just tell someone and get out of my own head. This should be the happiest time right now, and I feel like I'm losing that
nak I'm so so sorry Kara . I didn't realize this was happening . Sending lots of light your way .

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We're just hanging out, waiting for my mom to get here on Wednesday. Being home alone with all 6 kids isn't too bad until about 4pm and then I'm tired and cranky. We went to the zoo with everyone yesterday and that was fun! We had to arrange transportation and the hardest part was installing FIVE car seats. I can't wait until we buy our new, bigger, van this summer.
about the blow-out up to the hairline!!As for managing SIX kids under the age of 7, 2 of whom are newborn twins? All I have to say is this:

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Battymama - I know what you mean about the crying!

I don't remember it bothering me this much with DS1 either because it's normal for babies to cry. But Everett? Well somehow I figure since he hasn't been traumatized since birth because of having a UC etc. then he shouldn't ever have to cry
DH keeps trying to calm me down and remind me that it's okay for a baby to cry a little but honestly, it just upsets me SO much!
: I figured w/ a great birth and my team of healers, we would be golden, but such is not the case . In actuality, things aren't too awful, it's just not what I was expecting. Digestive stuff is still our main issue. The reflux is still improving, but the gas is out of control. Sigh.

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Hi everyone. I keep meaning to post but time is short! Post Partum has been a bit tough. I'm feeling good but we're having a few problems. I'm having trouble with Gage's latch and have bleeding nipples since Thursday. Now I also have cracks. It hurts like hell to say the least. Since he's either sleeping or nursing, they aren't getting a chance to heal.

Poor Gage is not a happy baby. As I mentioned he's either sleeping or nursing. Anything in between involves constant screaming. He's never awake and content. It makes me so sad. The worst is night time, he just cries and cries. DH has slept with him on his chest for the last couple of nights, it's the only way we get sleep.

My 2 year old has a bad cold. On top of a difficult adjustment for him, he's sick.

My incision was bleeding so I went to the doctor this morning. She said something about a blood clot underneath ? and had to open it back up. Thankfully it's not infected but she had to clean it out (only the last couple of inches) and pack it. I'm on antibiotics and have to go back again tomorrow to have it all done again. She said we should know by now how often I'll have to do it, if it's a lot they'll get me home health care.

DH told me I'm doing too much and I admit I have been. I've been feeling so good so I'm doing a lot. Not because I have to, my mom and Jim are doing it all, but because I want to. I'm up and down the stairs a lot, but DH has said enough. He was going to go back to work Wednesday but he's taking at least another few days. He doesn't want me overdoing it.

I'm still in good spirits, I get my down moments but I have so much support here at home that it helps a lot.

Hopefully now that I'm going to be resting more I'll have more computer time and can catch up. Unfortunately I have to go. Gage has his first appointment today and we're taking Holden to check his cough.
My goodness Amy, your plate is full. Lots of s for you and healing vibes for your incision, your poor nipples and your 2yo.

We are doing okay. I need more sleep. We have a second NAET appt on Wednesday to treat Sophie for sensitivities to foods in my diet. Problem is, the foods must be present in my milk in order for them to treat her, so I've been instructed to load up on a ton of different foods tomorrow (in the 24 hrs leading to the appt). I'm nervous as all get out. So scared that tomorrow and tomorrow night will be awful. But who knows? It seems like my diet change has helped her, but she still has episodes, so I can't be certain. Maybe she will surprise me and be okay. If not, I sure hope the NAET works, or we're in for a few miserable days. Cross your fingers for us.

At her appt with the holistic ped last week (right at 4 wks) she was 10 lb 10 oz and 22" long (up from 8 lb 4 oz and 20 3/4 at birth). So she's growing away, despite the fact that it seems like she spits up half the milk she drinks .

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Kara, I'm glad you're feeling better today. Anxiety can be so hard to deal with, especially on top of other stress. I hope that you are able to find a treatment that brings you relief. Skullcap is helping me keep most of the panicky feelings away.

Amy, I'm glad that you've been feeling so well after surgery, but I do hope you are able to slow down and rest a lot. I hope your incision and nipples heal well, and that little Holden is feeling better soon.

Shana, how has your back been feeling? I hope your pain has left.

We are doing pretty well here. I'm rather annoyed with my body as af returned Friday, exactly 6 weeks pp. I should have figured--she was awol for the 11 months we tried (well, wanted) to conceive before going to fertility meds, so it stands to reason that she'd show up when I want her to stay away. Bah.

Samuel is up to 7.5 pounds now and has filled out a lot. He looks bigger to me every day! I just wish he would sleep a bit without being held. He will not sleep for more than an hour in the co-sleeper, and I just can't sleep when he is in bed with me; it provokes my anxiety. It doesn't help that his heavy sleep period is during the day and he sleeps much more lightly at night. I'd love to reverse that!
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Way to go on the EC! I am feeling too overwhelmed at the moment, and also the logistics intimidate me. May I ask your technique? Are you going bare bottom? Prefold/loincloth? Split pants? etc. It's the whole removing the clothes and diaper that literally get in the way for me. Yeah. I'm lazy. How was your first day with dh gone?
I'm taking it super easy. His only clothes are a t-shirt and a prefold with a snappie, but, yeah, getting the diaper off is the intimidating part to me too. I'm getting better at predicting when he's going to poop, so those are the ones I try to catch. If I'm up to it, I'll take off his diaper and hold him in the newborn EC position and sing him his pooping song (Nora Jones-- Come Away With Me, for some reason. Hopefully I'm not setting him up for some very embarrassing prom moment ) or make the grunting sound. If I'm not up to it, I'll keep the diaper on and go through the same routine then change his diaper right after.

For pees, he's likes to wait until the diaper is off to go anyway, so I just take it off for a change (so he's already wet and then wets again) and make the psssstt sound while he pees onto another prefold (or a hemp nursing pad that is waaay too itchy to serve its intended purpose).

It's a slow process, but we're learning together. I think holding him in the EC position over the sink/toilet/bowl with the diaper on was a great first step for us.

First day with DH gone went well, and today's been even better. Thank you for asking . Luckily, DH works 5 minutes from home, so he came home for lunch and is going to do so all week. Oop, looks like he wants to eat. Haven't mastered nak, so I'd better go!
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My sweet Kierah is six weeks and two days! Time is flying. Makes me kind of sad... She weighed 11 lbs, 2 oz on Sunday when I weighed her! She's up 6 pounds!!! She is such a butterball! I love her fat, lil' leg rolls. My first dd was a long, skinny lil' thing. Kierah's gas issues aren't as bad since I doubled up on her probiotic. I've noticed she has more bowel movements now also. She seems a lot more content in the mornings. She still grunts, but usually it's b/c she's hungry or wet. Her yeast rash is slowly, but surely going away. I am really hating my diet. It's so boring! I've been really strict with myself, and have barely cheated at all. I know there are worse diets with more food restrictions, so I shouldn't complain! I do miss milk, cheese, sugar, and breads though! I am enjoying all the steak! YUM!

Shanana ~ Hugs! Sweet Sophie deserves a break and so do you!

Kara ~ Hang in there, sweetie! I'm sorry you are going through such a rough time!

Gotta get dinner ready while my little pudgy princess sleeps!
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Today was a bad day. The twins? Oh no, they're angels. It's my OTHER children who are making me want to tear my hair out. Izzy dragged Claire out of her swing in the 60 seconds I was gone from the room checking on dinner, Noah left the yard and went into the alley behind our house (and is now grounded from playing outside until we move in July--more a punishment for me than him), Gabe got ticked at Hannah and threw a block at her face, hit her mouth, and gashed her lip open.....AND it's the two week growth spurt.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

There, I feel better!
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Only have a sec, but apparently it takes about 7 hours for food to get into your milk, because that's about when the shxt hit the fan here . At least there is no doubt in my mind that Sophie is sensitive to my diet. All I have to say is this NAET better work!!!! And next time I might pump and feed her pumped milk for the 24 hours before, instead of going through this. She is miserable. I feel so bad for her. And I'm positively dreading the night. At least mil is coming to help. 14 hrs until the appt ...

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Well, we are discovering that Declan is a much fussier baby than DS#1 - I don't think we knew how good we had it! He is just normal fussy and not screaming or anything, but he complains a bit after eating, especially in the early evenings. I know the evening thing is pretty common for this age, but DS#1 neverfussed at all, really, unless he was super duper full and had to power puke (rare). So it is kinda like being a first time parent all over again...!?

And I can hardly believe it but we bought a second-hand Baby Bjorn at a consignment sale today. I have tried Declan in the mei tei and in a couple of different carries in a pouch sling and more often than not, he refuses to settle. It seems to have something to do with when he stretches out and his feet hit fabric (at least that is what I convinced myself of!) so we figured it was at least worth a try to use something where his feet could hang free and clear. Eventually he can sit that way in the mei tei but it's too big right now. Anyway, I was always pretty adament about using slings versus the mainstream dangling legs carrier (isn't it supposed to be better ergonomically?), but I guess you gotta be flexible....!

Anyone else still have some residual jaundice? Declan does and it is starting to freak me out a little, even though the midwife isn't concerned...

Finally, Christine/Naturemama3, I hear you on the pacifier. I am trying to hold out to 6 weeks just to be sure my milk is nice and settled, but we are inching closer to trying it asap. I would happily nurse him for comfort in fussy times but he latches on and then gets very mad when the milk lets down!


Kaleb has gotten much better but his eyes still look slightly yellow to me. They originally wanted to admit him in the hospital but I refused and decided to do it on my own by sunning him and feeding on demand which he adapted to every 2 hrs on avg. They had him go in to be checked daily for the first 3 days after diagnosis and his levels went down consistently. They will probably have me get him checked again when I go in on Friday...we shall see.

As for the pacifier I have been tempted..but Kaleb has silent reflux and is quite gassy so I don't want to add something else filling him with air and I am afraid to cause any nipple confusion. So for now I am bottle AND pacifier .

I had my 2 wk follow up appt today and I am ow 121...4 lbs heavier than pre-pregnancy. I think that remaining 4 lbs in in my damn stomach though...grrrrr. I have been wrapping my belly but have not been consistent enough with it. So I need to do a better job so that I can knock that out ASAP. That's about all I got for now...bede bede that's all folks....

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