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no, I totally get that mirasmom, and that is usually what we're like, we respect each others opinions even if we disagree. But I had a mom PMing me off the board to tell me how my baby could be stillborn if I don't get the GD test. and I just don't want to deal with that crap right now. I mean I don't PM her or anyone else for that matter saying "you should not let your DS CIO because it could cause him brain damage!" because I know she has made her own decisions about how to care for her son, and it doesnt affect me, nor will I change her very ingrained views on that issue. Yes I care for her and her DS and I really wish he wasn't crying in his crib alone, but I know arguing about it is NOT going to change their minds, and thats not the kind of board we are. We are very much an "Agree to disagree type board", and thats why I liked it so much. And it was even ok for people on there to ask me if a homebirth was safe because I am happy to answer a question out of genuine concern. But posts saying that they think all people who homebirth are putting their unborn babies at risk, and flat out stating that they think it is NEVER safe is not ok with me. Neither is the ganging up on me mentality, where I then have 4-5 women posting messages inferring that what I'm doing is not safe, that their babies would have died in a homebirth, how they can't believe anyone would risk that for comfort.....and this isn't even a thread on homebirth, its our chit-chatty thread, we talk about what we made for dinner, or what dumb thing our husbands did today, or that our kids are driving us batty today, or what was on TV that day, but for some reason my tiny little vent about insurance coverage (I was making calls all morning and needed to vent) turned into this HUGE ordeal. and it really hurt my feelings because obviously, I care about my baby. A lot. And obviously I, like any good mom, have researched and thought about things like this, like birth, and I feel safe having a homebirth. Babies can die, yes, but babies can also die in the hospital, I mean, its not like its something we can really control.
I just refuse to be made to feel like a monster for something I feel is the right thing for me to do. And I don't want that cloud over my head as I go through my pregnancy and birth my beautiful baby into his or her home.
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