I was a real dummy when I first got pregnant. I thought everyone had to go the hospital and get a needle stuck in their back to have babies. I was so relieved to discover midwives. I found Gentle Birthing Choices at Whole Foods and was hooked. My fear of hospitals far outweighed any fear I might have about birthing.
With my first, I didn't do a homebirthi - that's for crazy people, right??
So I had my first in a birth center. I could see the hospital from the porch which felt like security to me. Then, about 2 minutes after ds was born - perfectly, safely, I thought "Oh man. I want to go home." So that was it. I only do it at home now.
Information is a key factor. There are plenty of books. Read Spirtual Midwifery, Ina Mae's Guide..., Gentle Birth Choices, Childbirth Without Fear, there are so many books out there. Ooh, Henci Goer's book is a good one.
The fact is, if I have a complication at home chances are the midwife is going to detect it long before it actually becomes a problem. We'll have plenty of time to call the hospital, tell them we're coming, and then go. Sure, there are emergency situations but, from talking to midwives, those true emergency situations are rare.
Birth is not as dangerous as the medical community makes it sound. You do need info and confidence. But if you feel safer with gadgets around you as a safety net while you birth - you're going to have a hard time relaxing at home. I want privacy, I want to have a prior relationship with every person who's coming in and looks at my yoni
, I want to know that everyone understands my expectations and respects them. I don't need distractions, I don't need anyone telling me what to do, I don't need to feel like I have to ask permission to drink, eat, walk, move.