|What have your past birth experiences been like? WHat are you planning for this birth?
Wow, I haven't told this story in so long! DH and I were watching a movie late on November 14th, 2003, when I noticed cramps and fluid, so I called the midwife. I liked (but didn't love) my midwife. She was very crusty, near to retirement (I was one of her last clients) and she and I clashed quite a few times, but she was the only option I knew of in my area, and she knew what she was doing. So I called her to let her know, and we agreed I call back when the contractions were becoming more intense. So, fast forward until 7 a.m. when they were pretty intense, so I called again and she said to come in. She had a birth center at her house about 25 minutes away. When I got there I was 4 cm and she suggested we go home to labor the rest because I probably still had a long time (which looking back, I would never do. Traveling in the car while laboring is awful!) So, back home, labored another three hours until I knew it was getting close, so called again. She says, get this, "Oh, I have a family committment today and won't be able to attend your birth. Call my back up." WHAT?? Why she couldn't have told me that on the three other occasions I spoke to her that day is beyond me. So I called the other midwife, met her at the birth center where I was 6 cm. Kind of disappointed, so I took a shower to relax. The moment I stepped out of the shower I started having to bear down (6 cm to 10 cm in probably 10 minutes.) I pushed for about an hour, and she was here. She reached her arm out to hold on to the midwife's hand on her way out. The midwife just held her up so we could see she was a girl (this midwife by the way was amazing and I wished I had her the whole time...) She was born at 2:12 p.m., so total laboring of about 14 hours.
As a side note, I lost my little sister when I was young to a motorcycle accident, and my daughter was born on her birthday, which adds joy to a day I always felt sad.
For this birth, I have a team of two midwives who alternate appts and who is on call for births, so I will definitely know who is delivering my baby. We are planning a homebirth & I think it will be fabulous.
|Oooh, how did you meet your DH and fall in love?
I grew up in NYS, went to college in Ireland to finish my AA, then wanted to transfer out west (to The Evergreen State College.) I had friends in Seattle, so to establish residencey & cheaper tuition, I lived there for a year. I met DH through these friends, & we were friends for quite a while before we started dating. But once we did I instantly felt in balance with him, knew he was a good person and would be a great father. And now we've been together 12 years, married for 7 1/2. He is a great dad and also helps me stand up for myself and not whither under pressure as I tend to do. I couldn't imagine being partnered with anyone else!