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#1 of 22 Old 12-09-2007, 07:13 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I wrote this last night in my son's DDC thread.

I miscarried today. I'm still bleeding and cramping a little tiny bit, but apparently we had a blighted ovum and I've passed a ton of blood, clots, and a few hours ago, a plum-sized placenta. It started yesterday with some spotting that happened intermittently and overnight was 'calm'. This morning, things went downhill quickly and my midwife was here all day. She has gone to her part time job now, since I'm stable, but is coming back around 1 am, to help out, since Jett is still flu-ish and Shanon's trying to care for us both. I'm absolutely heartbroken....but in a tiny way, I'm relieved...this pregnancy hasn't felt 'right' the whole time. I'm at a loss for words.

I haven't been very active in this DDC, I guess because things never felt connected or attached or...or...or...I don't know. It just wasn't anything like my son's pregnancy, where I felt so bonded and lovey the whole time.

Well.....best wishes and love to all of you!

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I'm sorry

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....I hope the healing process is an easy one. Take care of yourself mama!

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So very sorry...
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I am so incredibly sorry!! I wish you healing and peace - you're in my heart...

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Sending love and peace to you and your family.
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My heart goes out to you and your family.
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Thank you all so much. It feels good to have the support.

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I'm so sorry for your loss

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I am so sorry.

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Leah- wife to Chris : SAHM to Henry (03/06)and to Evelyn : (06/08). She is our heart attack survivor at 3.5 weeks and went on to have open heart surgery at 5 weeks for Coarctation of the Aorta.
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So sorry for your loss -- be good to yourself during this healing time
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Wishing you peace.

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I am so sorry.

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so sorry mama!
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Peace beyond all human understanding is my prayer for you and your family:
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So sorry, sending warm thoughts your way.
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many hugs to you mama

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I'm so very sorry for your loss.....

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