Finally getting a chance to reply to this. Gotta warn you, though, I am a resource freak.
So here goes....
First of all congrats! Sounds like you are hanging in there and really committed!
I remember the first day with my daughter and tripping at all the crazy noises she made! I am a believer in offering the breast first no matter what, even if you think she is full. She may just want to suck for comfort sometimes. But I also like alot of what Aletha Solter says. Reading this
article in the early works seriously saved my life I think! Of course if she is just making some small noises and not really crying, I might try the patting.
Just as an aside, I got a son who wouldn't sleep at all unless he was right next to me. I agree with those who said to wear her as much as possible, even when asleep... if your back can take it. My back went out shortly after he was born, and I just couldn't babywear as much as I wanted to. Also, it took me awhile to bet used to sleeping with somebody on top of me, so I got severely sleep deprived in the beginning. I had to let everything go as much as I could. It got so bad that I realized I needed to try and sleep as soon as he nursed to sleep, so I was having my husband feed me during nursing time! Is there anybody else in your community you can reach out to for a little help, maybe with housecleaning and such?
I also reeeeally second all the suggestions to get off the bottle if you can. Moms I know seem to prefer the LactAid to the SNS, and then there are all sorts of other ways to get pumped milk in. If you don't know about Kellymom, it is a great resource. Here is their page about alternative feeding methods:http://www.kellymom.com/bf/pumping/a...e-feeding.html
Scroll down past the bottle stuff!
And then their general premie page:http://www.kellymom.com/bf/preemie/preemie-links.html
Interestingly enough, there has been interesting research showing that bottle feeding is actually more physiologically taxing to premies than breastfeeding!
Not sure if you have solved your sling problem, but I learned a really neat trick at a conference awhile ago. You can turn a sweater into a podegi type carrier by threading anything long and thin you have through the sleeves. That way it extends the sleeves into being like the straps of a carrier. Let me know if that doesn't make sense.
And finally, thought I would shoot this ABM protocol out to you just because it is interesting. http://www.bfmed.org/ace-files/proto...adProtocol.pdf