My daughter has not finished weaning, although she has definitely started. She is down to just 2-4 nursing sessions per day. Most days she nurses first thing in the morning (before getting out of bed), naptime, bedtime, and occasionally once during the night/very early morning. Not only does she nurse MUCH less than she used to, but each nursing session is shorter than it used to be. I don't think she goes longer than maybe 5-10 minutes per side now.
I'm unsure what my plans are. Part of me really wants her to finish weaning during the pregnancy. Part of me is sort of looking forward to tandem nursing. Part of me really still wants her to wean herself, even if I am encouraging her in that direction I sort of want the last step to be her own. I think I'd be satisfied if she just decided she could drop these last few nursing sessions. Too bad we can't pick and choose - I certainly know moms who were hoping their youngster would keep nursing through a pregnancy.
It is a hard decision and I know the internal struggle of wanting to continue and wanting to be done at the same time .
Karen - spouse to dh for 11 years, mama to ds (Nov '02), dd (May '05) and ds and dd (Jun '08)
it is a personal choice. but i felt very good about ds1 nursing through 2 pregnancies and slowly, slowly weaning. there were times when he quit for a week at a time and i thought we were done, but then he would ask again. and times when he asked a lot and i was busy with a new baby, etc and i played a art in the process. i think we're both really happy with how it happened.
it shocks me to think dd may wean earlier, but really who am i to say when she should? every child is different. and she may hang on longer, i dont know.
ds2 is more like ds1- way attached to maymay. we shall see!
Chaotic mama to 5 plus a bonus one on the way.
Whatever you mommas decide, whether it is to continue and tandem or wean, you have given your current kids a wonderful gift by nursing so long and will give the new babe the same wonderful gift
Ow ow ow ow, wait for the let down, ow ow DARN! Come on let down. Ahhhhhhh. Let down.
Tabitha, married to my best friend Steven - Mama to 6 little ones and another on the way!
I have a lot of mixed feeling and emotions about the whole thing.
It's definitely not easy.
My husband commented that he thought she was tuned into the situation, and that she somehow intuited that it would be better for me not to nurse through a twin pregnancy. That kind of claim would fit with "her" in general, but of course I don't know for sure.
She definitely seemed ready and somehow on the same page with whatever was happening, or needed to happen.
She has cried about it a couple of times, and wanted to be held in a "nursing position" and I thought for sure she would want to latch again, but each time it has been enough to snuggle. She was just 2 months shy of her fourth birthday the last time she nursed.
I think her fragility those times has had as much to do with my being less hands-on during weeks and weeks of hyperemisis, plus the stress of watching/hearing me throw up so often for so long, and just how out of whack the whole household has been. Her daddy is doing so much more (all the bedtime duty, all the cooking for her, getting her breakfast every day, reading stories and helping her get to sleep) and she also transitioned out of our bed in the last month. I wasn't surprised to have her randomly crying out and needing comfort, and missing the oldest standby for comfort. She's made several changes that she seems proud of, but still must be so stressful.
But as for the nursing, I am carrying twins so will be tandem nursing come summer, anyway!
Have you ever seen a nursing grad student? Of course she will stop when she is ready
Well, last night and this morning my daughter informed me there was no milk. Last night she told me there should be lots of milk because I had a lot of milk to drink with dinner. I tried to explain that any fluids would "make" milk. This morning she told me to get up and drink some orange juice in order to make her more milk.
My nipples only really hurt at night. He's nursing 2-4 times a day and 1 or 2 at night. I don't know if that's enough and was thinking about giving him a cup of goat's milk every day (he can't handle cow's milk)... what y'all think?
Sunny : gun toting, retired breastfeeding, car seat loving, guitar playing, home birthing and schooling mama to Jakob (10.06), Mikah (07.08) and Korah (07.11).
btw, my almost 18mo nurses roughly 4x/day & is nightweaned.
it was really painful at first, then it got better, and this week it's painful again. who knows?!
Jean, feminist mama raising three boys: W (7), E (5) and L (2.15.13)
But it's not quite that painful. And DD has "bit" since she was around a year and won't stop...
So part of me wants some time to myself and wants her to stop but I want HER choose to stop! (preferably soon...) but at the same time I also wanna tandem... *sigh*
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