DD will be 4yrs and DS will be 20mos in July. I'm excited about the age range and actually think it will help with jealousy. Any feelings? Experiences? Etc?
Tabitha, married to my best friend Steven - Mama to 6 little ones and another on the way!
We would like to ttc our second within about 6 months or so after DD is born. I'll be BFing though, so I don't know how it will all pan out in the end, but I'd love to have them close in age.
I was aiming for this spacing, give or take, and hoping it helps with the jealousy as well. Not too close and not too far, for me. My girls, of course, have their moments, but they really get along well. DD1 tells me that her sister is her bestest friend.
I was the oldest by 3.5 yrs and my sisters were a year and a couple days apart, so I was always left out and ganged up on. I'm hoping to avoid this somewhat with our spacing. That said, I do get along with my sisters very well as adults, so I guess it couldn't have been that bad.
So far I'm loving the spacing and hope that continues. It can be a little challenging to have a baby and a toddler, but I feel like it's worth it when they get a bit older, like my DDs. Also, my oldest is to the point of being a great help and takes such pride in it, so I'm certain that will help some.
Time will tell! DD2 is much more of a momma's baby, very clingy and needy. Much more so than her sister, so it may be harder on her and as such, on me.
My parents had two other kids much later - my second sister is 6 years younger than me, and my brother 10 years younger - but the important thing for them was that each of us had *someone* in the family that was within a few years of them. Built-in friends.
I hope to do the same with my new family.
However my first two are 15 months apart, CRAZY! Khourtniey, I don't know how you did it?!
ds1 is 5, he will turn six right around the new baby's due date. dd is 3.5, she'll be 4. ds2 is 16 months but he will be 22 months. the gaps, then, are 22mos, 28 months and 22 months again.
dd1 22mo older than dd2 who is 21mo older than dd3,
there is 3 1/2 yrs b/t dd3 and ds1
and there will be about 25mo b/t ds1 and ds2.
I personally loved having them close together. I feel like ~2 years is a "just right" spacing and is especially nice that it's working out w/my same sex kids. they have built in playmates and it's not so close (IMO) that it is really overwhelming.
I have to say though it was a whole different experience having ds1 with 3/5/7yo's around. my 7yo and even my 5yo were SUCH a help to me with ds1. with my girls i never really had that experience of "help" from a sibling...I mean they could grab a diaper for me, but not change or hold the baby for me. When I had ds, my 7yo could change diapers (and volunteered to, even after she got pooped on!) and my 5yo was a GREAT baby holder (awesome for a quick shower). Wow, that was so great.
Even though I like having kids close together, I have to admit w/a "large" family it's great having the older kids too, just the little things they can do to be a help, or the fact that they can get their own bowl of cereal/cup of juice (or get the same for a younger sibling) is so nice.
WOHM married to SAHD, living the dream w/our: 3 girls (14,12,10) and 3 boys (7,5,3) and tie-breaker due Jan 2014
9, 6.5, 4.5, 21 mos, and this one will come right after youngest turns 2. my kids are very close, and there's a lot to enjoy about their closeness. the time when its hardest is when i'm nursing and pregnant...it wears me out!
I am sure it will be exciting, I hope I can even remember the first year.
My son was an IVF baby that took 2+ years to conceive, we didn't think we could get pregnant on our own, and were just starting to talk about when we should even *think* about trying for #2 when - SURPRISE! So, maybe a bit soon, but very wonderful all the same.
I kind of wish they were a little further apart - right now, the younger is into all the older's games, and the older isn't old enough to cope well. It makes for some ugly moments. But, I'll be 37 when this baby arrives, so I wouldn't have wanted to drag this stage out too many more years.
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