Any thoughts on throwing yourself a blessingway/baby shower?
Julia, mama to Bumpa 2008, and The Mole 2011
If that doesn't work, then throwing a Pregnancy Blessing Ceremony would be nice. It's kind of tacky to ask for gifts if you're hosting it though. And, Pregnancy Blessing Ceremonies tend to take place close to the EDD... but you should send out invites WELL in advance. Someone might even ask... "Oh, why isn't there a baby shower?" to which you can respond, "It seemed no one wanted to throw us one." (then, they just might!)
Sunny : gun toting, retired breastfeeding, car seat loving, guitar playing, home birthing and schooling mama to Jakob (10.06), Mikah (07.08) and Korah (07.11).
ooooh... and then after we decided this (the party is on July 4th, so it hasn't happened yet) and sent out preliminary invites, a friend decided to throw us a shower. this is nice, because we've moved away from most of our friends and she's having it down where most of them live and will probably catch the majority that wouldn't make it to the party.
So, I say there is no reason to not throw yourself a shower. I probably wouldn't call it a shower - I'd just make a party out of the upcoming life change that you want to share with your friends and I think your friends would be happy to celebrate with you too!
Karen happily married mother of 3 great children (19, 6, 5), in my last semester for my Masters in Nutrition and started a six-month internship.
We have just about everything we need, the only things I have on the registry are a couple of things that are inexpensive and would be nice to have. But really, I am just asking people for freezer meals, and dinner/dishes for a few weeks after baby is here.
And I am asking people for those Cause you know, I certainly don't need anything else, like onesies, and I could really actually use those things after the baby is here.
Homebirthing, somewhat crunchy, single mom of ~5~.
Reneé, 34 year old mom to Antonin 8/04 and Arianna 9/06 . (6 weeks) 5/08. Married to Matt since 6/03 . Expecting another sweet little baby April 2015.
It was so great to have them there and knowing they'd be there for me.
If you feel like it, then go for it!
I am not having a shower, but instead we will be having a "meet the baby" BBQ after she arrives. That way we can invite our family and friends, as well as people who wouldn't normally be comfortable attending a traditional shower, like our male co-workers. No gifts.
I find the people who want to give you gifts because they love you and want to be a part of your pregnancy will do so, shower or not. We have received our crib and change table, playard, and travel system as gifts from close family. Our best friends have given us a cute little dress, and a really loud toy (they have an 8mo, and we have started a battle of the most annoying toys...lol).
So I think there are lots of things you can do yourself.... just don't call it a "shower."
Wife to DH (06/10) and Mummy to DD (07/08).
I know that several of my closest friends are really strapped, and I don't expect anything from them...I've already told them that I am just really happy to hang out with them. And people can get me stuff or not, it's fine. I didn't start out with anything for this baby, because it has been six years since the last and I got rid of all that stuff long ago, so I'm buying it all myself now, and I'm a single mom. If my friends want to help out, they can buy me something I want, which is basically just cloth diapers at this point. Or not. If they don't I will. I don't expect anything from anyone, it's just nice to feel loved and to feel as though you are being cared for and thought of.
I think you can call your party whatever you want, and you don't have to mention gifts, but if anyone asks, you can tell them you have a registry. And if you want to call it a blessingway, I say go for it, because the Dine have their own language, and we're all humans on a planet, and asking for blessings is a wonderful thing that does not need to be defined by anybody but you. (and I say this with absolute respect, as the mother of two native children).
Anyways, I think you should do what makes you feel happy and taken care of and not worry about what other people think.
Go for it
Book lover - Sewer - Movie lover - Mommy to a wonderful little boy (8/4/08) - Aspiring writer - On a mission to lose 15 pounds - all-around cool chick
i'm throwing myself another shower this time too. If that's tacky oh well call me the Queen of Tastless.
So yes, I am going to throw a blessingway get together at my house around 37 weeks where we will all decorate my belly cast, generally enjoy each other's company and make bracelets/anklets to wear until the baby comes, ohh and maybe make prayer flags too (that is what we did at another blessingway that I went to.)
It is funny to hear people react so strongly negative to the idea of throwing oneself a 'shower.' I guess I stay far enough outside social norms to not have to worry about being 'tacky' to the people that I would be inviting anyways. Plus I would never think of registering for gifts somewhere, even if someone was throwing me a shower, to me, that is 'tacky'. I liked the comment that people who want to give a gift will give a gift no matter what.
Julia, mama to Bumpa 2008, and The Mole 2011
id rather not do it at all to be honest, but....okay...tacky or not I NEED the presents...DH and I are both young college graduates and we weren't really planning this baby, so we're kind of at a loss. I just want everyone to come celebrate with us...thats all I want...but I know that people want to get us things too...and Im aLL about it, but really I would really love the celebration.
Whatevers....do it yourself I say. Don't call it a shower....don't ask for gifts....they'll come to you if the person really wants to get you something....
Im thinking I'll just have a party for the baby...'shower' madness aside.