Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Carroll County, Maryland
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I sure hope that I'm not the only one that feels this way...
Even though I'm due any day now, I still don't feel all that attached to the baby. This has been the case the entire pregnancy. I'm glad I did some of the hypno/imagery birth cd stuff because it helped me feel a little more attached - but it still isn't much and indifference could be a pretty good descriptor at this point.
I've heard some people say that not knowing the sex makes it a little harder to get attached, maybe thats it. Or a self protection thing that refuses to really acknowledge it as a person before I meat it. I know that if something happens before the baby is born, that would be devastating, but then my mind also wonders if these kinda detached feelings would make that a little easier to manage.
I don't have a mental picture of this little being... I still can't really picture it in my house anywhere... We still have no names, boy or girl, decided on. I don't know, it just feels very odd that I feel this way still, especially so close to meeting the baby. I asked dh about his feelings and he seems to feel the same way (not the I expected much else since he's not in contact with it all day long). But to him, until it's born, it's still an unknown variable thats hard to get attached to.
I do find the movements neat and will take time to just lay down and feel them. I'm always poking my belly asking "who are you?" and I'm sooo curious about its personality. I've been thinking it's a girl more and more and calling it "she/her" seems to help my mind form a real baby a little easier, but I don't want to over attach to that idea either and end up disappointed (a boy sounds good too and was what I thought I was having up till a few weeks ago).
Not sure what I'm posting, just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat. I'm sure that all that wonderful love stuff will be flowing when the baby arrives, but I feel guilty sometimes that I don't feel more attached yet.
Karen happily married mother of 3 great children (19, 6, 5), in my last semester for my Masters in Nutrition and started a six-month internship.