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#1 of 4 Old 07-18-2008, 08:02 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Our 1st dd is almost 3.5yrs old...and of course, is the love of our lives. We're due with #2 sometime around July 29th...I'm just wondering if you have any advice on the transition from 1 kiddo to 2? I'm thinking that she'll be really helpful...she's such a little mommy with her babies...and loves and is truly intrigued by 'real' babies...but you never know!! Thanks for any insight!
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It has only been five days for us, but be prepared for a lot of temporary (hopefully?) regression, in just about every domain. A lot of need for extra attention - easiest if other people are around regularly. Also, with so many people coming by wanting to hold the baby, we have had to make sure to give our son (about to turn three years old) some time to "hold" the baby himself. And even if your child seems okay around babies, be super-vigilant - in less than a blink of an eye, my son managed to cram a piece of napkin in the baby's mouth today! :
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I just had my fourth baby 2 weeks ago, and my kids have never had any trouble with adjusting to a new sibling. I could probably have 10 kids and never have an issue come up, so we must be doing something right.
I think the key is keeping yourself available to your older child(ren). Paying attention to all of one's children is always very, very important, but especially when there's a huge change in the family dynamics, like the birth of a new little one.
Just this week I put an extra table into our kitchen so we could put a puzzle together on it. My older kids love puzzles, and so whenever I have a few extra moments in the day, I sit down with at least one of them to do the puzzle. Sometimes we talk quietly and sometimes we just work in silence. It doesn't matter as long as we're spending time together.
I still read to my older children, which I can easily do while I'm nursing the baby. It makes my older kids feel important, too. They love being read to, even though they are strong readers themselves.
I also let them help me with baby care. My oldest has little interest, but does like to occasionally hold the baby. My second-born likes to be heavily involved with baby care, and has even changed diapers. She's the only one who really wants to change diapers, so she's the only one who does. Children are very good at letting you know what level of involvement is just right for them. I would let your 3-year old hold the baby with you there, of course. You can pay her little compliments about what a good job she's doing as a big sister, stuff like that.
Make sure you take good care of your own needs also. You'll have more energy to spend with your older child.
Perhaps you can encourage Dad to take your 3-year old somewhere special during the first couple of weeks postpartum, when you're still recovering.
It'll be fine!

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