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#1 of 27 Old 01-11-2008, 04:57 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm pretty sure this will be the last one for me. I know I'm in the throws of m/s and fatigue but I just really don't want a 4th child. I think 3 will be plenty for me. And if this pregnancy, God forbid, doesn't end well I don't think I'll try again. I just don't have any desire to be pregnant ever again.

dh wants to wait till after the baby is born to get a vasectomy. I'll support him in that but I'll also be very careful about sex after the baby is born until his test comes back with a zero count!

Is this anyone else's last pregnancy?

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Is this anyone else's last pregnancy?
Well, according to my dh, yes, according to me, no lol. I've convinced him to hold off on getting the big V until after the baby comes though - he was ready to go get fixed about 2 minutes after I peed on a stick lol!

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Probably. DH only wants two, but I'd prefer at least three. He's pretty adamant about only two.
I adore being pregnant, but I can see what he's saying, and as much as I think big families are SO stinking awesome, I am probably not cut out for more than three, max.
I'm only 20 and it blows my mind to think I'll be done having children at 21. I guess only time will tell. Maybe I'll luck out with another unplanned pregnancy?
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This will be our second. If it were up to dh, we'd probably have a whole herd of them running around but I think two is a very good number. I have always had a very strong feeling that I should adopt someone who is unwanted and in need of a loving family. Hopefully we will end up adopting at least one but as for biological, this will definitely be the last one. I don't think my body is really built for having babies!

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I'm pretty sure this will be the last one for me. I know I'm in the throws of m/s and fatigue but I just really don't want a 4th child. I think 3 will be plenty for me. And if this pregnancy, God forbid, doesn't end well I don't think I'll try again. I just don't have any desire to be pregnant ever again.
I kind of feel the same. I think I am only feeling this way because of my fatigue and food aversions. I never experienced that with my previous pregnancies, so I guess I've been very lucky/spoiled. Plus we're getting older so I don't know where another baby will fall in our timeline.

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Heck, I thought I was done *before* this pregnancy!

Assuming all goes well with this pg, I'll be 38 when I deliver. We'll have three kids.

Yeah, we'll be done.

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Absolutely. We originally planned 2 children and I talked DH into 3. This will be our 4th and final. Since we've conceived using various forms of birth control and I'm not comfortable using hormonal methods, we will probably go with a vasectomy and/or tubal after the birth.
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I always thought I'd want three, but two (knock on wood) seems good right now. I keep telling DH (who wants 10) that this is the last time I ever want to be pregnant. This could also be the first trimester talking
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My last pregnancy was 3 children ago!

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Win ir lose, this is our last pregnancy. If I have a third miscarriage in less than a year, I am taking that as a big fat sign that we should stop at 2.

FWIW, I always thought I only wanted 2, but when my youngest turned 2 I became open to the idea of a third. It was a very hard decision for me to make, but I know we will love having one more should he or she arrive.

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Yes, I think so. I think three is going to be the limit as to what I can handle. I don't like the idea of vasectomy though. I feel changed by my c-sections and while v is more "minor" surgery, I'm concerned about supporting it. I'm not sure what else could make me feel safe enough though as we conceive very easily.
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Yes.

Actually, my now 2yo daughter was my last, lol

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I'm several kids away from being "done," I hope. This is baby #3 for us, and I sure want a break for a few years after this, but I sure don't feel done. And I'm even saying that at 9 weeks pregnant in the throes of morning sickness.
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Can't imagine another...this one will make 3. I used to want 4-6 kids I love bigger families, Dh only wanted 2. We thought for a long time, we hadn't really decided for sure and then I was pregnant.

We have done foster care before and I think that might be in the future, maybe even adoption.


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lol might have thought baby #3 was now pregnant with four..
it ain't over till its over or this lady sings..
I think at five I'd get my tubes tied....
I don't want to end up driving a family extendo airporter van

8 might be enough
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I can't ever imagine being done. This is #2, I would love 4 of my own and then to adopt two children. I plan to take a break after this one though, and take a year off after s/he has self-weaned before ttc again. I want to have my wisdom teeth removed and do a really good cleanse and have my toxic mercury fillings replaced too... and that's just a start

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Biologically I think yes we're done, but we've always wanted to adopt as well, so that will probably be in the next couple years. This will be #3 for us as well.

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I want to have my wisdom teeth removed and do a really good cleanse and have my toxic mercury fillings replaced too... and that's just a start
lol all the things you can't do while breastfeedin or pregnant.
I got all my mercury out last time the little man weaned...
no metal left..got some minor gum surgery out of the way too
-hey when you have that window of opportunity not being pregnant or breastfeeding - I even donated blood and called up to go on bone marrow registry...

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sigh....actually I'll settle for putting in a mamoth fluff order!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and a few unmentionable thousand extra calories in my mouth

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8 might be enough
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Who knows?

We keep on going back and forth. Before #1 we had decided on 5, after him it was 2 or 3. After a m/c a year and a half ago and another seven months of TTC without any luck we just kind of threw up our hands and said whatever, our kid is great so we're happy with one. Now that I'm pregnant again (and obviously not infertile) we're back to a few (between 3 and 5). So who knows . . . just kind of playing it by ear and understanding that God and the universe work in wonderous ways!
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Yes, our fourth and last.


Uhhh... I mean our fourth and FIFTH and last!! Little stinker! hehe...

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This is it. Actually #2 was it and dh and I both heartily agreed on that! So . . . this is definitely it! He'll be getting fixed at some point during this pg.
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We think it is. Because of my rough pregnancy history, and the stress invovled with being pregnant and trying to lov the baby, yet not get too attached too fast, we think this has to be it. We already have submitted foster parenting/adoption paperwork for the state, before this pregnancy, so the rest of our children will come about that way. 13 pregnancies is enough for me.

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before we married, we talked about having only one child. so this might be it for us. I was raised as an only, and some of my bestfriends are only children, so I'm comfortable with the idea. We won't do anything permanent for a few years in case we change our minds.

btw on the topic of amalgam fillings, I was in the process of having mine replaced, and had one removed/replaced the cycle before I got pregnant. Would you be worried about it?
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Well, I thought we were done with 2. But my dh wanted more (I think he just thought that and I got pg!), so here is #3 and I really want it to be my last. Dh said we'll see and I really want him to get the big V before the baby is born. Hopefully I can talk him into it!

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hmm... well our family is what you'd call a blended one I guess it started out as my son, his son and now our daughter together so altogether we have 3 already, but since one is my stepson I've only been pregnant twice not counting this time. This is only our 2nd pregnancy together and we're just enjoying our family so much. My husband is sort of on the fence leaning towards we're done, but is surprisingly still open to it since he only has one sibling (and his family thinks we should have been done with our daughter). I'm one of four children so to me the more the merrier...

Maybe one more after this one... maybe. lol

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I'll probably have one more in 3 years (I hope to be married then) and then another. I figure 3 kids won't be so bad but I could definitely be happy with just two.

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Yes this is my second and last. I was happy with one, really, really, really happy but my husband wanted a second. I actually think if this pregnancy doesn't work out, I had two miscarriages already, that I will go on birth control and convince my husband that one is enough. I think I am traumatized because all my friends have already had number two's and their lives seem too hard to me.
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