I had my ultrasound today and found out I'm growing a healthy wiggle squirmy baby boy!!!!
What is the problem you ask? I seem to be surrounded by closed minded individuals who seem to believe that it is my duty (I have been told "you better have a girl") to bear a female child, since I already have a boy, and everybody knows that a boy and a girl and a little doggy and a white picket fence makes the perfect life! :
My dh and I are over the moon about having another boy, we didn't care about the sex, but others are really gunning for a girl, so I kinda told a lie.
I told everyone that we don't know the sex... When they asked I just shrugged and said "it's a surprise I guess" and that lead them to believe that we couldn't see the gender.
Sigh, I don't know why but I just can't deal with the "Oh... congratulations!" and the pretending to be excited for a second. I'm actually excited and I think it would break my heart a little every time someone had that type of reaction. I just feel like keeping this close to my heart for right now... kwim?
When I was pregnant with #2, everyone was hoping it would be a girl, since I already had a boy. We found out that she was a girl, and everyone was thrilled. I secretly kind of hoped for a second boy. Now that she's here, I love, love, love having her. But it was weird that everyone else was so thrilled because I'd have the 'perfect family.'
Now that we found out we're having a girl, it annoys the hell out of me that everyone I talk to says "Oh I know that's what you wanted!" or "Oh, that's just perfect, a boy then a girl...now you're done right?" Makes me want to scratch their eyeballs out.
Have fun with your little boys!
Mama to a 5.5 yr old boy and a 2.5 yr old girl. Expecting baby 3 (another girl!) late June
It is funny though how that stereotype comes into play - like my family is less perfect b/c there's no little girl. I kind of enjoy being the only one in the family with all boys. I hope that boys as teenagers will be easier than girls
Bella Rose is here 07/29/10!
Always missing my
My MIL actually tried to convince not to have anymore children because "you'll never get a girl! Once you have 2 boys that means you will only have boys!" My mom pressured us to have another to try for a girl. After losing 4 babies, we were happy to have anyone join or family. You really gain perspective on what's important when you lose a child.
Of course, that'd be a good idea for any super physical child.
Congratulations on your second son!!
Didja save the baby clothes? Is your eldest all kinds of thrilled to have a baby brother coming?
I'm so glad to have all of you lovely women who totally understand what this is like! I'm also so touched by the beautiful stories everyone shared about their families! It was like a big hug this morning and I really needed it.
Thank you everyone, I feel so much better and ready to face the weird comments once again!
I got that too... as all of my cousins had two boys... and then I had two boys... the Aunties were getting frustrated over their desire to go all out in pink.
I can't imagine life without my little guys. Before I had my first, I assumed I wanted a girl... but to be honest, now I can't imagine not knowing the joy of boys.
It's also quite wonderful for them to have each other to play with...and do boy stuff. I'm so happy that I have my two boys. I'm so thrilled that they have each other.
Of course, now that their sister has arrived, we're all madly in love with her. Her big brothers are so protective of her. They alternate between trying to initiate her into the joy of trains and cars... and then deciding she's enjoying their toys to much... so "here's your dolly, Sara."
(BTW, all of the Aunties who wish my #2 was a girl absolutely love the little guy as is. They say "Oh, we're so blessed to have DS2. He's such a sweet boy, etc.")
Mom to DS(8), DS(6), DD(4), and DS(1). "Kids do as well as they can."
We are going Monday to find out (my hubby REALLY wants to know so I said OK) I am worried I am going to get the same reaction that you are worried about if we find out we are having a girl (since I already have a DD) but I really just want a healthy babe! So I think we may just do the same thing and not tell anyone just let them find out after the babe is born
Mountain Biking Mama of 3 little beans, . Epumped 22mths for dd1 (2006)
Nursed my babe, dd2 (2008) until self weaned at 3yrs. We survived a major nursing strike.
Awesome for Baby #3 who turned out to be a (Aug 2013)!
my birthmom acually said why did is it a boy it was suppost to be a girl u already have a boy i think u and ur husband need to have more kids cause u need a girl lol
my dad said yes iam disappointed it is a boy
my stepmom said i wish it was a boy
i dont get it what is soo great about girls i throught boys were just as special as girls and iam sooo happy and over the moon iam having another boy totally looking forward to it and i do plain on having more kids and i acually want more boys like 5 more boys lol but i pray very very hard for little boys cause i want my family to learn they need to be happy with what god gives he gave me a gift u need to be happy my baby is healthy and happy
my IN laws said yes another boy that is great what can we name him lol we r letting them name our little boy lol since we cant agree on a name but they r over the moon excited for me to have another boy
Book lover - Sewer - Movie lover - Mommy to a wonderful little boy (8/4/08) - Aspiring writer - On a mission to lose 15 pounds - all-around cool chick
|"Oh, that's just perfect, a boy then a girl...now you're done right?"|
Someone said, when a friend of mine had her third girl, "Oh, you're going to have to get your husband a dog." : People simply don't think about what they're saying.
Edited to add: I'm also keeping the sex of this baby (male) private from lots of people I know IRL... although now that I think of it, I may have some friends of slightly older boys I might hit up for hand-me-downs...
My husband wants to start a hockey team, so I must have at least THREE boys. No pressure.
We just found out, to everyone's chagrin, that IT'S A GIRL! They ALL thought it was a boy. Whatever. I'm so excited for my little girl, but I would have been excited for a boy too!
Why does it matter anyway? Love is not based on genitalia!
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