My sister wanted to do a shower for me. It was our second son though, so I didn't need any STUFF, and wanted a mother's blessing as well. Neither my sister nor most of the guests had ever attended such a thing (I'd only read abotu them!) and i'm trying to remember how we worded it......
something like this I think...
You are invited to a Mother's Blessing to help [brightonwoman] celebrate the impending arrival of her son.
Please bring a bead that represents your hopes, thoughts, and wishes for her--we will be putting these on a bracelet for her to wear in labor.
Please do not bring baby gifts--she doesn't need anything. Instead we invite you to bring an item for her nurture basket (for pregnancy, labor, or postpartum pampering).
That's roughly what I remember.
I'd be happy to answer questions about specifically what we did and all...
I ended up totally forgetting to wear the bracelet in labor (although I did have it with me at the hospital), but I did later string those same beads onto a nursing necklace for my ds!
It was really cool to see my very mainstream extended family participate in burning our tigers (birthing from within thing), sharing the beads, and tying everyone together with red yarn to represent the interconnectedness of things/people. Most of my SILs are done having kids, but two of my neices were there, and I would like to hope that the experience helped them see birth in a more positive light, you know? (I do think it was really healing for my one SIL who has had all c/s).
~Jenni, rural frugal Alaskan, eternally married to Dragon
loving my wild things DS Wolf (12), 3 angels, DS Bear (6) & DS Eagle (3)