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#1 of 36 Old 06-03-2008, 09:27 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Man~ On our anniversary at the beginning of May, we went *5* times! That was a record for us in our ENTIRE 12 years together!!

Granted, it isn't as much on a regular basis, but that is more because we have been mad busy trying to get the house fixed up before it gets tooo hot here than anything else...

I understand some are on bedrest or medically required abstinence..but what about everyone else? How do you go without??????

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Go without? Why would I do that?
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We were, but we have for about two weeks or so. We've been sick and oh, my sex drive that was all crazy during the second tri is gone! I'm hoping to take one for the team a few times at least during the next few weeks. It's so much better than last pregnancy. From two months on, no sex until 12 weeks pp.
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I was on pelvic rest the first trimester due to my miscarriages, and after that I really didn't want to have sex because I did not want anything bumping my cervix and causing bleeding. I was so nervous about it when we tried it wasn't really fun.

Just because we aren't having actual intercourse doesn't mean we aren't doing other things, though.

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Don't know why we'd go without. Although, at 31/32 weeks now, my belly has really started getting in the way, and preventing some of our favored positions, so that's a bit of a downer. Still, where there's a will, there's a way!

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Been on pelvic rest due to incompetent cervix since 13 weeks. This is our second pregnancy like this, though, so we knew what we were in for. When my cerclage comes out at 37 weeks (if I make it that far), we are hoping baby will hold off long enough for us to dtd at least a few times before birth!

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Just because we aren't having actual intercourse doesn't mean we aren't doing other things, though.
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I feel so bad for DH. I have had very little sex drive this pregnancy. And now my body is always all kinds of achy.
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Gahh I would like to be doing it a LOT more... I never got that 2nd tri kick-start like we had hoped... but we have figured out the more comfortable positions so that helps. We are still very "physical" though and we always seem to be talking about it all the time!! At least that way it's not "out of sight, out of mind."

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Sexiness here did not decrease or increase. Although, I don't think it could increase.

But the past few days have been sexless due to my new friend, PUPPP. The itching makes everything uncomfortable and the rash is not very attractive either.

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I have zero sex drive and a extra horny dh! So he still gets it a lot (mostly pitty sex) or he will cry and wine like a toddler.

 

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I had a small dip in my sex drive during the first tri, so we were dtd about once a weekish, which is not very often for us, but now we're back to every other day or so. I think regular orgasms are really good for you during pregnancy as they are like super kegals. My midwives commented on how they had never seen such strong pelvic muscles, and I was thinking "well ya, I have been having orgasms everyday... "

I always laugh right out loud when people give us a hard time for co-sleeping because we have such a healthy sex life and people think we must be ruining our relationship letting our ds into bed with us. Some people have no imagination!

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My poor DH...I just have no desire at all to dtd. Though we have been married for 11 years, so we just really do not do it like we used to anyways with all the kids and stuff. I know though that at the end..when it might help to go into labor (so there is a motive behind it) that he will get plenty.
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We are 'doing it' about once a week now. I make it a priority atleast once otherwise I feel bad for my dh.
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I hate to say it, but I find my DH absolutely unappealing these days - I blame it on hormones making me annoyed at every little thing about him. Plus he is usually asleep when I'm awake, and leaves for work before DS goes to bed, and when he IS home and awake, he's glued to his computer games. So, we aren't DTD very much here.

Not that I care, really. No, really!
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We are 'doing it' about once a week now. I make it a priority atleast once otherwise I feel bad for my dh.
I think it's strange that there's this "feeling bad for DH" sentiment so often. He should feel bad for YOU for not feeling frisky or sexy.

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my DH definitely feels bad for me. I haven't had an orgasm in a lonnnnnggggg time. Hopefully its just pregnancy hormones and not a new way of life for me.
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We do it about once a week. We were only did it once or twice a week before I got pregnant so no big changes here. We have become a bit more creative with the positions though...

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hey the way i look at it you got to get as much as you can before the baby coems and you cant have any for awhile.
but me my honey is gone for a month oh i miss him but he'll b back soon

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we're still doing it a couple of times a week, but dh bugs me about it so often that i still turn him down a lot. i'm achy, and with the positions that are uncomfortable or now impossible, it takes some convincing on his part...convincing that usually makes me happy in the end that he convinced me.

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Sex in any position is completely uncomfortable. Nothing works for me.

Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?
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My DP told me I'm wearing him out. enuff' said.

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Other than falling asleep because my eyes won't do what my brain wants them to we are doing about the same as before. But, I miss my favorite position and can't seem to orgasm without it! But even if I can't he can and it makes him a calmer, kinder, nicer husband.

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Pregnancy sex is the best...we do it more often while I'm pregnant since it is also a great mood stabilizer for me. Those little annoying things aren't nearly as annoying if we have sex on a regular basis.
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we're busy, but still quite desirous. it's been tough to fit into our lives right now, but we're making the effort.

everyone once in a while, we even give up sleep for it.
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My DP told me I'm wearing him out. enuff' said.
Get it Monique!

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Sex in any position is completely uncomfortable. Nothing works for me.
Same here, and poor DH thinks he's disturbing the baby or something every time we try.

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Well, I do have my toy drawer... although I think baby Abigail doesn't like the vibes... she kicks when I use them... so I've stopped using those. lol!!

(sure wish my sailor was home tho, nothing can replace him!!)

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Pregnancy sex is the best...we do it more often while I'm pregnant since it is also a great mood stabilizer for me. Those little annoying things aren't nearly as annoying if we have sex on a regular basis.
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Well, I do have my toy drawer... although I think baby Abigail doesn't like the vibes... she kicks when I use them... so I've stopped using those. lol!!
Baby Kendall stops moving when I use mine. I fear I would give him shaken baby syndrome so I stopped using them...two days ago. LOL

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I have zero sex drive and a extra horny dh! So he still gets it a lot (mostly pitty sex) or he will cry and wine like a toddler.
Same here! Cept he's not getting any.

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