update today 7/15
so we got another NST today, perfectly normal, my blood pressure is fine as long as i'm resting, only trace protein in my pee, and the diabetes test I DID NOT CONSENT TO!
came back.. oh what's that? YEAH NORMAL! yet the dr. sat there, looked me in the face "you're baby is huge.. it's cause you're diabetic i'm sure, you did turn down glucola.." hm. not so much. can i just not have a big baby you dumb woman? whatever. i'm over them.
we go tomorrow for the other ultrasound to check on the fluid level, and the possible kidney issue. i'll update again after that
So I had 2 days from hell.
After a bad dr. visit on Thursday I was admitted to the hospital because I had gained 11 lbs in 2 weeks, had high blood pressure (
146/82) and was +2 protein in my urine, on the 36 week US it showed he weighed about 7 lbs, that I have high fluid, and he has a blockage on one of his kidneys
The weight gain should've been about 6 pounds in the 2 weeks. I had weighed myself before going to the dr. that day, and since my appt. wasn't until 4:15, I'm sorry I wanted to eat! So I had eaten 2 meals, drank multiple glasses of water, I hadn't pooped in 2 days.. that does not mean I gained 11 lbs! I tried to explain this but was ignored.
The blood pressure being high.. it has never been high so I do see the concern there. The + in my urine, I have been + before, back at 26 weeks I believe, and nothing was said to me except I was +.. we'll call you (they never did).
The amount of fluid.. I am not very educated in this. I need to know the causes of high fluid, the potential risks, and is there anything I can do to get it down?
The blockage in his kidney was explained as either cysts, or just a blockage (she briefly mentioned something about a flap that boys have that causes urine to do something.. I don't know I really wasn't listening at that point because I had gone into another place I think). From what me and my husband have read over the past few days it seems very fixable and kind of common in boy babys. Has anyone had a baby with this? What was the outcome? What was the treatment he/she got? Basically anything anyone knows about this would be appreciated.
His weight.. on Thursdays US she said 7 lbs
. On yesterdays scan she said 9 lbs
. Today in the middle of a nurse verbally assaulting me she said 10 lbs
. No one would give me a straight answer. I am 2 1/2 weeks away from my due date. It would not be THAT terrible to have him be 7 or 9 pounds. So I could have a 9-11 lb baby. BIG DAMN DEAL! What is so wrong with a bigger baby? I think we all know the accuracy of the baby weight guessing game on the ultrasounds is, well, just that.. it's a damn guess. Who here has been told they will have a huge monster baby and end up with a 7 lber? Who has been told something must be wrong with baby if baby weighs a lot in utero?
Now while at the hospital, of course another string of events takes place. I really, really need advice here.
We had non stress tests taken off and on all day yesterday. I watched the monitor the whole entire time. I know when he went up, when he went down, when he had hiccups, when he slept, when he moved.. you name it I was aware of it (and aside from actually knowing his heart rate, I would know all that ANYWAY! I feel him constantly
). With that being said, the nurses and doctor were happy with those tests all day yesterday. Fast forward to today before leaving (mind you I had already been discharged at this point, so I am just waiting to leave now
)we get hit with "let's do one more NST before you leave". I of course was annoyed, we had been discharged 20 minutes before, had already signed papers, and were waiting on a wheelchair. I said all of this to the nurse and she got really short with me and said "well you can leave but it'd be AMA and you're bill won't get paid
". My question to that is if I was already discharged, can they legally keep me for another test and then say I would be leaving against medical advice resulting in my bill not being paid?
I said ok to the test, laid there for 30 minutes when she told me it'd be 15, she then said he was not reactive enough, not giving 2 significant jumps in heart rate during the 15 minute period
. I am 110% positive that he was the same levels of 118-150s off and on, with excellerations not lasting for 15 seconds at a time, twice in a 15 minute period
. It was the exact same way he was yesterday. I argued this with her, asked to see the print out from yesterday side by side with the one today.. and she said ok I will get them
, did I ever see them? Nope
. She came back from calling the doctor and she had an attiude from hell and when I addressed her attitude she raised her voice and said "you're going to kill your baby if you keep this all up! WHY ARE YOU BEING LIKE THIS? the kid has problems lady! HE'S TEN POUNDS!
" to which I was completely shocked and could only muster an "excuse me, that was uncalled for and very mean, and what is wrong with a big baby" and then I went into a mild rage with her bring up the following points:
- I'm being monitored for high blood pressure here, maybe you should be trying to keep me calm
- I have yet to see the side by side print outs
- What is SO wrong with asking questions, this is my body and my baby
- Am I supposed to be making you happy here? What about my well being?
- Isn't telling a perfectly responsible, worried and trying to fix things, first time mother to be that I am killing my baby a little evil?
- I mentioned the inaccuracy of US weights and were they aware of the accuracy on their machines in the hospital and she said "no we just relay information, I don't know statistics
All of which I got no answers to, just more yelling and she then started to cry. Could that situation have been more unprofessional or is it just me?
Another nurse then came in barking at me just the same way and by this point I am being told by both ladies that I'm killing my baby. I give in and move to another room for another NST on a different machine. Upon entering the new room I get hooked up and the same nurse starts on me again. A few quotes "why are you being so defensive? / we had another lady that had her baby die because of stuff like this just 2 weeks ago! / you are killing your baby / should I just shut up until I leave the room? (accompanied with a smirk and eye roll) / god almighty I am trying to help you!
" and for the cherry on top of all of that greatness, at the very end of this test she asks me "are you scared?
" To which I looked at her and said "no I am not I just want to go home". It felt like she was trying to push me over the edge from the minute I met her and then her one concern was if I was scared? With everything she had said I know she was wanting me to say "yes, to death", and I'm not. If anything I am angry. I am hopeful and know everything will be fine. How could a woman act like that to another woman, especially going through what I am? They registered one excelleration that she told me about and obviously had to have gotten another one because they paged the dr. to get approval on my leaving. Did I mention this is two hours after I was discharged
The previous night my nurse had taken my 24 hours worth of pee (to see if protein had gone down
) out of the bathroom to get tested. She said results in 30-45 minutes. 3 hours later
she comes in and says that the Dr. won't discharge me til the next day. I ask why, she makes a face and says she doesn't know. I asked what the results of my urine tests were and she says she doesn't know. I said will you called them into her so you do know. She said the Dr. will discuss the values in the morning. I asked if she could at least tell me if the protein levels were lower, she said yes. So at that point I was done being nice to her (she kept leaving my door WIDE open everytime she'd leave too
). and basically shoo'd her out.
Fast forward to this morning she comes in at 7:00 AM to do my blood pressure where she then says "you're scheduled for the glucola soon so go ahead get up" to which I said "I'm not doing that. Sorry. I turned it down at the OBGYN, I'm turning it down here. I'm not going to fight with you about it." She said nothing but she did nod and left. I know they are wondering if I have diabetes. I have had the following:
-28 weeks when I turned down glucola I had a finger stick done. I had just eaten 2 hours before and it was 77.
-30 weeks a random one I didn't know they were giving me, I had eaten some cake that morning about 3 hours before and it was 111.
-32 weeks a fasting one, no food for 8 hours and it was 96.
I eat good. I don't eat fast food, I don't eat junk food *except some icecream once and a while, I eat lots of fruit *fresh, and veggies *fresh, soups, lean meats, good grains.. I watch what I put in there because I know my baby gets it too. I think they assume I eat trash because I am overweight.
So later on a new nurse comes in and offers me glucola AGAIN! I politely said no said "ya know, what about some jelly beans? that would work too!" She looks at me and says "jelly beans have glucola in them??
"........ she was 100% serious. This is the kind of person caring for me? Someone who thinks, even if for a moment, that a sugar DRINK
can work its way into a jelly bean, I'm sorry but I was appauled. I looked at her and said "um, no hon.." To which she said "well what does a jelly bean do?
" then I said "it would increase my blood sugar to see if I'm diabetic.." and then I just stopped talking to her and went to my happy place.
Right before the last non stress test was offered after I was discharged, a man comes in to take my blood. I had been told by the Dr. earlier that I would have a few more labs taken to check for any chances of preclampsia
one more time (all the others came back fine). So that's what I expected. This man gets the needle in me and the vile up to it and says "so have you been tested for diabetes before?" What the hell?
I said "um, they took my blood earlier for blood sugar levels and as far as I knew this was for preclampsia.. do you mind making sure of the test you're doing before you do it..?" He said "well it was in my orders for you to have the hemoglobin ac1 test
done, so I'm just doing what I was told", and at this point he is already taking the blood. So I ask him what the heck kind of test is that to which he responds "oh it can tell if you've been diabetic at all for up to 6 months ago! It's a new test, everyone loves it, especially for the expectant mothers!"......................................... .................................................. ... what was I to do? I've now been lied to about a test, and given the test without my consent or knowledge, and I had already been discharged
. WHAT DO I DO? This cannot be legal? I am so angry. What would you do? What should I do?
The Dr. I have had through the last 36 hours has been very threatening, very condescending, she has lied to me, given me tests I didn't consent to, and she was the first one to throw the stone of "you're going to kill your baby
". She said it in the morning when she came in to discharge me at 10:00 AM. She came to the bed, got out the words "ok you can go home, but nothing but strict strict bed rest, if you have someone around the house to clean up I would suggest that, only bathroom and kitchen visits.." to which I said "of course" and as I wipe the sleep from my eyes she says "I mean it's very important, you could kill your baby" to which I sat up and put my hand out and said "hey that is a little harsh don't you think?". She started the baby killing trend with that this morning and it carried through to all the nurses in the afternoon.
My orders as of now are:
-Bed rest, strict
-non stress tests twice a week at the hospital
-2 dr. visits a week at my obgyn office
-another scan of baby on Wednesday at a bigger hospital 3 hours away
The duration of my pregnancy, if left up to them, will not be allowed past 38 weeks where I will end up having a c-section. And this is from the Dr.
I am completely exhausted. They had me in a labor and delivery room for the first day, so the bed was not made for relaxing, my back hurts, my legs hurt, my feet are puffy, I got no sleep. I was admitted to a labor and delivery room with, I'm sure with the way things were headed they were going to section him out yesterday but did not have enough reason to make it look urgent enough.
What do I do? I am lost feeling. I want to see about another Dr. but I fear it's too late, and now that they have all these complications stuck to me.. I'm afraid no one will take me this late. I know I want other opinions, I'll be making calls monday.
Thank you for reading, I know it was long.