I am almost 13 weeks now. When do you think it would be safe to start "doing it" again?
Most likely if you do have more bleeding after sex it's just your cervix being sensitive NOT any sign of a miscarriage.
Usually they say once you hear the baby's heartbeat (or aka once it's beating.. even if you didn't hear it!).. your chance of miscarriage drops to a extremely low percentile.
Rae 27 DH Phillip 32 married 11-22-03
DS1 Nathaniel b. 11-21-04, DS2 Ian b. 9-8-06, DS3 Samuel b. 10-1-08, DS4 Peter b. 5-24-11
DH wanted to last night but I feel like I want to wait a week or two more.....poor guy
I totally understand what you mean about not wanting to see any blood, even if you know that it's just from having sex. For that very reason, when I first found out I was pregnant, I found myself reluctant to have vaginal sex. I hope this isn't TMI, and that I'm not being too forward, but there are lots of things to do that won't irritate your cervix one iota - which is how we spent most of the first trimester. You may want to consider those options.
As many PPs have advised, don't do anything if you don't feel comfortable with it. DH will survive.
As for seeing a MW, we are doing a UP so......
I think I will make him wait it out for another week or two until I feel more comfortable with the idea of going back to it.
Wife & Mama to Two Loving Kids DS1 (7/7/07) DS2 (925/08) and DS3 (6/28/12)! And our new furbaby puppy Koda!
Take it slow the first time... You'll be fine!
I totally understand your fear of not wanting to see spotting again. Just take it nice and easy. Lots of foreplay. Make sure you are relaxed and aroused and I'm sure everything will be okay.
I understand how the spotting could have caused you worry and think you've been really sensible. But if you're ready I'd say go for it. DH and I haven't slowed down much and make love several times a week. I joke that we're going to have to buy one of those bouncy baby hammocks because the baby is so used to getting bounced around
I wasn't really into sex until a week or so ago but am feeling fine about it now.
Its a cool thing...I was worried for a bit there that my sex drive would never come back.
I think it was the fatigue and my hypothyroid which wiped it out.
I do make sure to use a lube (just don't want to irritate my lady parts due to increased blood flow) and I am on top.
No spotting or anything so far.
Happily married with two tots ( J 10/18/08) & ( T 5/03/10)
I love pregnant sex! Everything is better when I'm pregnant!
I agree with pp's though, take it easy, your anxiety about would be worse for the baby than the actual sex!
DH and I dtd all through my first pg and no ill effects. In fact I always felt wonderful after. I attributed it to the testosterone I absorbed balancing out my hormonal fog!
No ill effects this time either.
I guess I just really didn't need that prostaglandin injection. If we do try again, we'll be sure to use a condom.
"Although orgasm, as well as breast stimulation, can cause the uterus to contract, this will not cause miscarriage. A bit of cramping after intercourse can be very normal. Of course, if cramping continues, or if it is associated with any spotting, you should see your care provider right away.
There's a very positive side to sex during pregnancy. Physiologically, the increased blood flow to the pelvis, the uterus, vagina and clitoris is enhanced, which congests the pelvis a bit and can increase a woman's pleasure, causing more intense orgasms. It can also cause a heightened libido. "