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#91 of 165 Old 11-05-2008, 11:43 AM
 
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good morning everyone,

It's been a busy morning. I tried to do laundry in my apartment building basement and I always set the baby in a carseat on the floor while I do it. Well this morning on the floor was a....snake!

I think I'm gonna sell my washer & dryer and go to the laundromat!!!!!


I'm still trying to figure out about taking the baby on a plane but on a better note...

I DTD (and it's in caps for a reason) last night! Talk about fireworks!!!
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My fever's back up to 100 so I paged my midwife. She thinks it's mastitis so I'm off to get abx and monistat in a little bit. I feel like shit. :

AmamaAgain - brave soul for DTD! I'm still too scared, it's totally a mental thing. I was cleared to go ahead and do it, but eh. Like Nora would be quiet for the 10 minutes we need to get it done, anyways!

O/T - I cannot stand Rachael Ray. Daytime TV sucks regardless but this woman really gets under my skin. Ok, sorry, I just had to get that off my chest.

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I definitely think Elina's problem is dairy related. The last post I made where she had such awful poo and was so miserable happened the day after I ate a really cheesy lasagna that SIL made. (I didn't even realize I was eating dairy until I was halfway done lol, I'm not used to avoiding it!) Elina's been tons better since that day, and that lasagna was the last thing I've eaten that had major dairy in it. So we'll see, I know I have to give it a couple weeks but I dont think it's coincidence that she got much worse right after I forgot and ate dairy.
I am almost definitely facing dairy intolerance too. I had given it up for a few days, and by yesterday Davin was doing absolutely great...he actually didn't cry all day! We took him to the pediatrician for his 2 week visit, and I told her that I thought his very irritated, very persistent diaper rash was an allergy ring and so I had given up wheat and dairy, and she basically treated me like I was dumb and could be harming my baby for not getting full nutrition. So, I decided to experiment with some dairy--had a big bowl of yogurt yesterday. He woke up about 3am crying with painful gas and he hasn't been the same yet. He's only sleeping tiny bits and wanting to nurse constantly and has been really thrashing and pulling on my nipples (ouch.) and trying to push the gas out. He also has lots of little red bumps on his face that weren't there yesterday. I am exhausted.

It's quiet here today. I hope everyone's having a good one.

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I'm not NAK for the first time in 12 days :

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I don't know how this will work out. My son is only 4 weeks old and as much as I feel I need to be at the funeral, I don't know how it works with traveling with a 4 week old. He's not supposed to get his shots until 2 months and I would have to fly from New York to Mississippi with the two boys.

What do I do? Please give me your honest inputs of what you would do if it were you.
Might be too late, but I'd go provided you have someone to help with your older ds while travelling. I'd just wash your/your ds's hands religiously while in the airport/plane and keep babe close to you like in a sling or something.

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Thank you Heddybee for that quote in your sig line. It gives me a new perspective on my labour/birth. My ND asked me about the labor/birth today and I couldn't hold back tears and couldn't talk about it. I thought I was getting past it, but I realize now it's because I'm just not thinking about it. That quote helps with healing though. Thank You..

and HUGS to you and your babe. That sounds tough. Hang in there s:
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Also, she was born with two "club feet" which now need to be corrected. We had an appt today with the orthopedic specialist, and her legs are now in casts. We have to go back a couple times a week for the next several weeks to change out casts and get her in braces once the casts work their magic. After that, it's a matter of wearing leg/foot braces 20 hours a day, then cut back to nighttime braces at least until she's two.
My sister was born with club feet and underwent multiple surgeries to fix them. She's a happy well-adjusted adult. Although she doesn't wear flip-flops or run marathons, she does play sports and stay active. I hope it helps to hear my sister has had a fairly positive experience.

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I hope if anything it is a breast infection. I was having scary thoughts of having a piece of placenta still stuck in my uterus and needing a d&c. Ugh, talk about the delusions of having a fever. As long as my temp stays down I think I'll be ok.
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My fever's back up to 100 so I paged my midwife. She thinks it's mastitis so I'm off to get abx and monistat in a little bit. I feel like shit. :
Sorry to hear your fever's back. Given my experience, I of course thought infection or retained product. You would know if that was the case, though, because you would start bleeding. I hope your boobies feel better and the abx work. I'm sure you're already doing this, but probiotics always help me when taking abx.

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I am almost definitely facing dairy intolerance too. I had given it up for a few days, and by yesterday Davin was doing absolutely great...he actually didn't cry all day! We took him to the pediatrician for his 2 week visit, and I told her that I thought his very irritated, very persistent diaper rash was an allergy ring and so I had given up wheat and dairy, and she basically treated me like I was dumb and could be harming my baby for not getting full nutrition. So, I decided to experiment with some dairy--had a big bowl of yogurt yesterday. He woke up about 3am crying with painful gas and he hasn't been the same yet. He's only sleeping tiny bits and wanting to nurse constantly and has been really thrashing and pulling on my nipples (ouch.) and trying to push the gas out. He also has lots of little red bumps on his face that weren't there yesterday. I am exhausted.

It's quiet here today. I hope everyone's having a good one.
Sorry to hear about the babe's problems. I hope cutting out dairy helps.

AAM- Oops. Hazel's awake. Will type later
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Carrie are you also having pain in one of your breasts? What's the monistat for? Remember that UTI's (even silent ones without pain to you) can also cause nasty fevers and make you terribly ill.

farmerjess ..... ugh sometimes Pedi's just don't know anything... I'd go with what you feel is best.. you are NOT harming the babe by eliminating a couple of foods.

AAM: Samuel and I had a rough night he screamed from reflux a while then wouldn't stay asleep without being held. I'm soooooo tired..

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We've got an appointment tomorrow to discuss reflux as well. All of my kids have had it- our second actually had to have it surgically repaired. I don't think his is bad like that but he's constantly gulping it back and vomiting forcefully. Wish me luck- I hope it helps.
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^^ Yes, I'm having tenderness/pain in my right breast. It wasn't evident yesterday, but overnight as my breasts got fuller from not nursing as often, I can definitely feel pain. And my right breast is hot. Really hot.

The monistat is b/c I always get a yeastie beastie from taking abx. My midwife recommended getting it and just having it on hand in case I get itchy. I'm also taking probiotics and will DH pick up some soy yogurt later.

It's so true that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I never would have imagined I would be able to handle all the terrible things that have happened to me over the past month. From the galactosemia and not being able to nurse, to my poor Leeloo passing away, and now mastitis...I so did not sign up for this.

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I'm not NAK for the first time in 12 days :
So much for that prospect

I'm going to a pp support group today. I went to the same one with my first until she was about a year old and am still buddies with two of the moms. I'm not even going to try and not cry when I tell my birth story.

My bleeding has let up quite a bit since the d&c, but I'm still taking the methergine and have cramping for hours after taking it. Advil seems to help a lot.

Hazel and I seriously need to learn how to nurse lying down. The cluster feeding in the middle of the night is wearing on me. We've tried a handful of times, but have been unsuccessful at latching well as of yet.
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Carrie I'm sorry it is Mastitis ... I've BTDT with my first kid... it was really painful I couldn't stand to wear anything even just a bathrob brushing against the infected breast was extremely painful!! Hard as it may be.. try to 'nurse through it' and nurse often.. that will help empty and relieve your breast, and you'll heal much quicker. Also GO TO BED, you need to rest to heal and make it through this illness.. otherwise it will take much longer to get over it. (((((hugs))))))

Changed .. sorry you are having another reflux baby, it is so hard to see them in pain isn't it? ... I hope your doctor can help you all out!

AAM Well I've got my baby down for a nap, we'll see if it lasts, meanwhile I've got to try and fix some lunch. I wish my big kids would sleep so I can..... being Mama of three is much harder then 1 or 2 lol.. cause I almost never get to rest in the daytime !

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DH is out of town for business for the rest of this week. He left this morning. My MIL is coming to stay with Ally and me though to help out. I love that she has the ability to just pick up and leave town if she's needed.
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Mamanurse- I hope you can get your story out, and begin healing! I'm glad there is a support group you can attend.

Carrie I'm so sorry about Leeloo. I'm glad she's not in pain anymore.

Heating pads always helped with my mastitis, and try laying your girly down on her back ona changing table or what-have-you, and nursing with your boob dangling down. Gravity seriously helps pull out a plug if you have one, and even if you don't it'll help drain the inflamed area. I got poke root tincture this time around, and it got rid of the hot zingy feeling before it ever developed into anything else! I would also drink orange juice, not just take Vit. C., because the vitamin is more easily absorbed that way, and citrus has antiinflammatory properties, too. GL!

Amamaagain- I'm sorry about your grandfather. I was devastated when mine passed away, and I totally understand why you'd want to go. I agree a sling would be an absolute necessity if you're gonna go.

And Congrats on DTD again!!! You beat me to it!


AAM- No pad today! : I figure I'm not taking that much of a chance anymore. . . now all I need to do is get a shower! : Why is it so hard to find the time to freakin' BATHE????? But at least both my boys are napping right now!!! Yay! DH will be home early, but we have fellowship at church, so it's not likely we'll get to DTD tonight. I'm still plotting my ambush!

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Good morning, mamas. Carrie, I'm so sorry to hear about Leelo. I know how special kitties are, and am glad that you have taken so much care to memorialize him. I hope you are starting to feel better too.

Amamaagain- I know what you're going through with your grandfather. My grandmother died shortly after DD was born and I did not go to the funeral. It was difficult, but more people understood than I thought would. I was later able to grieve both grandparents at my grandfather's memorial a few years later. May the memories of his life and your relationship be present for you as you deal with this loss, and make this decision about whether to be there.

AAM- Bryson had his 2 week checkup yesterday-- 8 oz. over birthweight and 1 inch longer! He also had his first diaper blowout this morning-- DD had at least one per day, so I hope this is an anomaly. I thought these bumgenius diapers were the key to no blowouts, but I guess not.

Do any of you have repeat bleeding? I am 17 days pp, and didn't wear a pad on Thursday or Friday of last week. Then, I started bleeding slightly and clotting a bit on Friday night. It went away Saturday, and began again yesterday. It's nearly gone again. (OH, I'm so ready to be done with pads too!)

I can sorta equate both episodes with stress. The first was our first evening out with Bryson -- trick or treating in the rain. I was absolutely ready to get my parents out of my house yesterday, in addition to being out and about for the longest trip so far. Then, they cramped my style, as yesterday I wanted to watch election returns, and my mom wanted to fight with me about our disparate political views. Hooray-- they left this morning, and the bleeding has calmed down a lot.

Bryson had his first chiro appt. today, and I got a great adjustment too!

Off to change a diaper, again.
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Carrie I'm so sorry about Leeloo. I'm glad she's not in pain anymore.

Heating pads always helped with my mastitis, and try laying your girly down on her back ona changing table or what-have-you, and nursing with your boob dangling down. Gravity seriously helps pull out a plug if you have one, and even if you don't it'll help drain the inflamed area. I got poke root tincture this time around, and it got rid of the hot zingy feeling before it ever developed into anything else! I would also drink orange juice, not just take Vit. C., because the vitamin is more easily absorbed that way, and citrus has antiinflammatory properties, too. GL!
Thanks for your kind words about Leeloo. I'm trying to remember the good times and not dwell on the fact that she is no longer here. I'm at the point where I barely remember her being sick, I really only remember her being playful and loving. I think that's a good sign. I just can't spend too much time thinking about her or I start sobbing, and get very depressed.

Hmm, I wonder if nursing Nora on her back would work. See, that's the thing. I don't feel any lumps or inflammation in my breast. I was reading online and it seems that an abscess only occurs in some cases of mastitis and not all. I'm not even in that much pain, it's really the fever that is wiping me out. The aches and fatigue are more than I can stand. My boob is tender, and burns a little when she eats, but it's not unbearable.

And I keep wanting to ice it, not put heat on it. Hmm. Interesting. It could be b/c I'm burning up with a fever and heat is so unappealing right now.

I just wanted to ask too - I had a pap and a culture done yesterday, can that cause cramping and achy-ness? I just want to make sure that's normal. I'm not having any bleeding, just a bit crampy in there.

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Do any of you have repeat bleeding? I am 17 days pp, and didn't wear a pad on Thursday or Friday of last week. Then, I started bleeding slightly and clotting a bit on Friday night. It went away Saturday, and began again yesterday. It's nearly gone again. (OH, I'm so ready to be done with pads too!)
Yep, I did, and I could attribute it to increased activity/stress too. I thought my period was starting b/c I'd gone a week or two with no bleeding, then all of sudden blood and clots. Perfectly normal.

Thanks for your kind words about Leeloo, too. Like I said, I'm beginning to heal. It is just incredibly hard and lonely around here. She was my shadow all through pregnancy, and would always curl up on me when I felt sick, and not having her here now when I feel so terrible is really hard.

We may have to get her sister a companion and I'm just not ready to bring another cat home. But Cosette is just really lonely. Not sure what we should do...

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My bleeding has been off and on since DS's birth. He was a month old yesterday and I'm still wearing liners and spotting about once a day. It's been really light for the last 2 weeks though.
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woohoo my nipples are finally starting to feel better!!! Lets hope it stays this way...
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My boobs are KILLING me. One of my nipples is half raw. Both my areolas hurt during and after a feeding, on the rare chance I get a latch where my nipples don't hurt. I just cannot get her latched on right, not without several exceedingly painful - as in instantly bring tears to my eyes - tries first. That's our only problem, and it's so minor compared to what so many even on here are going through. My supply is fine, she's peeing and pooing and gaining like she should. I know all the benefits to breastmilk, I really do. I know dealing with formula and cleaning and preparing bottles would annoy and frustrate me. I know how worth it sticking it out will be in the long run. I also know that the answer is to just keep trying, and probably to seek professional help. Problem is, at the moment I'm not sure I want to. Good grief it's only been 2 weeks and I'm ready to give up on the best thing I can do for my child right now.
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Lee!!! I would definitely seek out some professional help! My friend ended up losing a chunk of her nipple b/c she waited so long and just tried to "deal with it". Don't do that!!! After a few times talking to an LC the latch got corrected and she nursed with a shield until that one nipple healed. You can do this!!! I know it's hard when your nipples hurt so bad though and you dread that next feeding - we're slowly moving away from that ourselves.

Carrie - I was just dealing with a plugged duct last night and my Mom told me she got mastitis with all of us and the first time she went from totally normal to terrible fever in an hour - sounds like it can come on pretty sudden. She said heat always helped with her pain too. you've got so much on your plate but you are such a strong Momma!!

On Bleeding - I'm still wearing pads here. Somedays it seems like hardly anything, then I'll have a bit more red bleeding. Usually on the days when I get up and go out. What with the UTI I'm really ready to get out of pads!!

AAM: Cranberry juice is doing it's thing! Lots less burning or none when I pee now, I'm so happy I don't have to do abx!!! I also had a plugged duct last night - a hard, tender area on my left breast. I tried getting Adelh to nurse with her chin on that side and she almost drained my breast, but it was back by the next time she needed to feed on that side. TMI - but a Dh works so much better, and is a lot more pleasant of an experience, than a pump to drain the milk!!! It was completely gone after he got done with it. :

Dh had to come home early from work due to snow today. We're hoping it's a freak storm and not the start of winter already. It's raining hard here (his job site is over a high pass, it was closing and he had to leave to get through it) and I think we'll just stay in pjs and hang out all day.

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My boobs are KILLING me. One of my nipples is half raw. Both my areolas hurt during and after a feeding, on the rare chance I get a latch where my nipples don't hurt. I just cannot get her latched on right, not without several exceedingly painful - as in instantly bring tears to my eyes - tries first. That's our only problem, and it's so minor compared to what so many even on here are going through. My supply is fine, she's peeing and pooing and gaining like she should. I know all the benefits to breastmilk, I really do. I know dealing with formula and cleaning and preparing bottles would annoy and frustrate me. I know how worth it sticking it out will be in the long run. I also know that the answer is to just keep trying, and probably to seek professional help. Problem is, at the moment I'm not sure I want to. Good grief it's only been 2 weeks and I'm ready to give up on the best thing I can do for my child right now.
Hang in there mama! I was feeling EXACTLY the same way you are just a few weeks ago. DD was born 10-01 and after about 2 weeks of BF'ing I was really questioning if the pain was tolerable anymore. There were a few really bad days but it does get better, just remember that and it will be ok I was on the BF'ing threads daily just so that I could keep reminding myself that what I was going thru was normal and that it would get better - and it did! By about the third week the pain definitely got better, DD is 5 weeks old today and we are like old pro's at this point. Just stay strong and use LOTS of Lanisoh, it really helps. I bought some nursing pads treated with Lanolin and that helped a lot too. Stay strong mama and good luck

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I'm glad you called your mw, Carrie. And its good to hear you are not waiting on the abx...mastisis is one of those times when, IMO, abx are completely warranted. I hope you are on the mend soon.

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farmerjess ..... ugh sometimes Pedi's just don't know anything... I'd go with what you feel is best.. you are NOT harming the babe by eliminating a couple of foods.
^No kidding. What the heck is that ped thinking? I have nursed 4 bambinos on a vegan diet and they are all now super healthy kids. And my 5th, little Iris, is packing on the pounds w/o me eating meat or consuming dairy. It is crazy to me that there is still this idea out there that it takes the mom drinking milk to make healthy breastmilk. :

I agree, go with your gut.

AAM: Iris is 3 weeks today! Where the heck has the time gone? I'm doing well on the PP front, all things considered. Iris sleeps really well at night and has been letting her mama get good, solid 4-5 hr stretches. She'll then nurse for about an hour and sleep for another stretch. We've only had one real fussy night when I ate one too many brussel sprouts that didn't agree with her tummy. I'm feeling less weepy as each day goes by but I'm still overwhelmed at the sight of my babe when I stare into her eyes or at her while she's nursing. I'm sad that her newborn days are limited.

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My boobs are KILLING me. One of my nipples is half raw. Both my areolas hurt during and after a feeding, on the rare chance I get a latch where my nipples don't hurt. I just cannot get her latched on right, not without several exceedingly painful - as in instantly bring tears to my eyes - tries first. That's our only problem, and it's so minor compared to what so many even on here are going through. My supply is fine, she's peeing and pooing and gaining like she should. I know all the benefits to breastmilk, I really do. I know dealing with formula and cleaning and preparing bottles would annoy and frustrate me. I know how worth it sticking it out will be in the long run. I also know that the answer is to just keep trying, and probably to seek professional help. Problem is, at the moment I'm not sure I want to. Good grief it's only been 2 weeks and I'm ready to give up on the best thing I can do for my child right now.
mama! It really sounds like you do need help. Asking for help would really take some of the pressure off of you as well. It's impossible to get through what you're going through when you're constantly beating yourself up for not wanting to do it anymore.

I had to go through the break-in nipple period twice in 3 weeks. It was hell. If the first time wasn't bad enough, the 2nd time was even worse b/c I really wanted to nurse but it was so incredibly painful. I had fought so hard to be able to nurse, but my body was screaming out in pain. I cried through most of the feedings b/c of how painful it was. I didn't want to get dressed b/c it hurt to have any sort of fabric on my nipples, and I hated showering b/c my breasts were so sore and my nipples were raw.

It will get better. Your nipples will heal. Take it one feeding at a time. Don't think ahead at all. You will get through this, and you will thank yourself and be stronger for it.

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Lee. Please, please go see someone skilled in breastfeeding support. Have you called a LLL Leader in your area? It is important that someone watches you nurse your dd. Watching you nurse is the best way to really know what's going on and help you correct what's causing you such pain. You are strong, mama, and you can overcome this!

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Thanks everyone. The only person I've seen about this is my midwife, and she said her latch looks fine. I *can* get a good latch, it just takes so long we're often both in tears. And it still hurts afterwards. Thing is, I was mostly healed up about a week ago and now it's bad again. I can't help but think that's the way it'll be because I have a genetic skin disease that makes it pretty sensitive. As in, a bad toe stubbing *might* make any of you bruise, but it will either give me a yucky blood blister or just rip the skin off entirely. I don't wear shorts because my legs are all kinds of scarred up from the simple scrapes and bumps of childhood. I quite literally do not have finger or toenails. (All this and more, and my case is mild! ) I guess I'm trying to decide if it's worth sticking it out just to have to switch in a few weeks anyway, when I know in that case I won't have enjoyed those unreplaceable weeks at all. Alternatively, will I regret never knowing what might have been? On the other other hand, formula isn't the end of the world and doesn't my baby deserve a momma who doesn't grit her teeth and cry through feedings (I'm starting to resent the constantness of it all)? On the other other other hand, doesn't she deserve a momma who will work hard to give her the best? Pumping (manual pump) is mildly uncomfortable, but not painful. Maybe I could do that as long as I can? I got her to take a pacifier earlier , so that should help with the constant comfort sucking.

I know none of you can answer these questions for me - only the husbandperson and I can decide. But I really really really appreciate being able to get all this out and the support from you ladies. Thanks, more than you know.
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Thanks for your kind words about Leeloo. I'm trying to remember the good times and not dwell on the fact that she is no longer here. I'm at the point where I barely remember her being sick, I really only remember her being playful and loving. I think that's a good sign. I just can't spend too much time thinking about her or I start sobbing, and get very depressed.

Thanks for your kind words about Leeloo, too. Like I said, I'm beginning to heal. It is just incredibly hard and lonely around here. She was my shadow all through pregnancy, and would always curl up on me when I felt sick, and not having her here now when I feel so terrible is really hard.

We may have to get her sister a companion and I'm just not ready to bring another cat home. But Cosette is just really lonely. Not sure what we should do...
Carrie - I'm so sorry Leeloo passed. Several years ago, dh and I lost a dog. She was only 14 months old and just got sick (pneumonia) out of the blue. The vets (4 diff ones) never could figure out why. It was so very hard for us to deal with, but our other dog was miserable too. They had been the best of friends and he was lost without her. We finally gave in and got another dog a few weeks later. I still question that decision. We all love him (the new dog), but it didn't make up for losing her and none of us were really ready. I'm still not sure what we should have done. I'm certainly not telling you what to do, just wanted to tell you I understand and sympathize. I hope you all take the time you need to grieve.

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Lee - Wow. You're absolutely right. No one can make this decision for you. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. I hope you get the support you need to follow through with whatever solution you choose.

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My boobs are KILLING me. One of my nipples is half raw. Both my areolas hurt during and after a feeding, on the rare chance I get a latch where my nipples don't hurt. I just cannot get her latched on right, not without several exceedingly painful - as in instantly bring tears to my eyes - tries first. That's our only problem, and it's so minor compared to what so many even on here are going through. My supply is fine, she's peeing and pooing and gaining like she should. I know all the benefits to breastmilk, I really do. I know dealing with formula and cleaning and preparing bottles would annoy and frustrate me. I know how worth it sticking it out will be in the long run. I also know that the answer is to just keep trying, and probably to seek professional help. Problem is, at the moment I'm not sure I want to. Good grief it's only been 2 weeks and I'm ready to give up on the best thing I can do for my child right now.
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Thanks everyone. The only person I've seen about this is my midwife, and she said her latch looks fine. I *can* get a good latch, it just takes so long we're often both in tears. And it still hurts afterwards. Thing is, I was mostly healed up about a week ago and now it's bad again. I can't help but think that's the way it'll be because I have a genetic skin disease that makes it pretty sensitive. As in, a bad toe stubbing *might* make any of you bruise, but it will either give me a yucky blood blister or just rip the skin off entirely. I don't wear shorts because my legs are all kinds of scarred up from the simple scrapes and bumps of childhood. I quite literally do not have finger or toenails. (All this and more, and my case is mild! ) I guess I'm trying to decide if it's worth sticking it out just to have to switch in a few weeks anyway, when I know in that case I won't have enjoyed those unreplaceable weeks at all. Alternatively, will I regret never knowing what might have been? On the other other hand, formula isn't the end of the world and doesn't my baby deserve a momma who doesn't grit her teeth and cry through feedings (I'm starting to resent the constantness of it all)? On the other other other hand, doesn't she deserve a momma who will work hard to give her the best? Pumping (manual pump) is mildly uncomfortable, but not painful. Maybe I could do that as long as I can? I got her to take a pacifier earlier , so that should help with the constant comfort sucking.

I know none of you can answer these questions for me - only the husbandperson and I can decide. But I really really really appreciate being able to get all this out and the support from you ladies. Thanks, more than you know.
Lee- Sounds like you have a rough lot. Your condition sounds exceedingly painful and I would totally want to throw in the towel as well. I would definitely recommend seeing an IBCLC. Talk to them before your appt and inform them on what skin condition you have and specifically ask them to do research on it beforehand so they can be well informed when they meet with you. Maybe something like a nipple shield would help in your instance?

I can attest that exclusively pumping totally sucks. I did it for my dd1 for 15 months. It's extremely challenging to care for a newborn/infant and maintain a milk supply. Obviously it's possible, but it's difficult. It's especially hard to have an AP relationship with your LO because they cannot get the attention they need at every moment. If you do decide to EP, check out the tribe or feel free to hit me up with for any tips or questions. I just want to stress that I don't recommend this and it should only be done as a last resort in my opinion.
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Thanks again folks. I'll stop monopolizing the thread soon.

mamanurse, I did get a nipple shield at Target, but they only had one size and it's way too huge. Is it supposed to stick out way further than my actual nipple? Seems too big at the base too.

Am in a much better mood right now. Probably because the husbandperson came home, and we had dinner. Am looking into LLL meetings in the area. Eowyn nursed earlier, and it only took like 3 tries to get her on properly. Areolas still hurt a little though. They look fine, but feel bruised. Guess that's to be expected? If nothing comes of the LLL will look into the IBCLC. I think getting out of the house every so often will help (emotionally at least) as well, so tomorrow we'll go do something maybe.
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Lee, it takes me a few tries to get Ainsley on so that it doesn't kill me while she nurses. Our main problem is she will.not open up!!! What has really helped it applying lanolin to my wet nipples as soon as she's done nursing when possible. There's lots of pain with the initial latch (like toe curling, have to clutch a pillow, and saying "ow ow ow!") but much less pain during her nursing. With her, she's not taking enough of the areola into her mouth.. and no matter how hard I try, she just won't. I get a good amount in, and she spits it out until she's comfortable.. the little stinker! We'll probably be visiting an LC tomorrow to see what to do about it, I'm sure it's the reason for most of the soreness, and I also think she may be tongue-tied, so maybe that's part of the problem as well.. she nurses non-stop, so I'm wondering if she's not transfering the milk well due to not latching properly. I hope we get it resolved. She has her 2 wk tomorrow, so hopefully she's up to her birth weight at least & I'll feel more confident and less like I'm starving her.

How are the other babies growing? Ainsley was up almost an inch at 8 days & 4oz. I'm so excited to see what she is tomorrow! She's still way too skinny for even newborn pants, but she's really starting to fill out her newborn sleepers in the length.

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Nipple shields do come in multiple sizes and it should stick out further than your actual nipple, but not much further. Here's a pic of a nipple shield in place. I'd say even a little more room than what's in that pic would be okay.
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Hello...just checking in. I have been reading, just not posting much but I wanted to let you all know that I was still alive.
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Hey girls! Sorry I haven't been posting much. I have been trying to work through some of the issues I had with my birth.

I am feeling much better about the way things went now. I did a bunch more research on high blood pressure + high uric acid levels and think I made the right choice with the induction and c/s. I realized today that I went through 37 hours of unmedicated labor....almost all of those were hard labor and 8 hours of medicated (but still painful) labor. I posted in the c/s thread that it was 33 and 12 but I was wrong. It made me realize how strong I really was. I am proud of myself for what I did, even though it ended up completely different than I wanted.

I am still bleeding....barely. I never really did have period type bleeding. Only spotting and clots when I went to the bathroom. Now it is hit and miss and very light pink.

Breastfeeding is going ok. I have one boob that is super sore when she feeds. The other one is fine, just the initial latch hurts like hell....after that it is fine.

I was going to post more but Calli is screaming for more food again. I hope to catch up more on this thread tomorrow.

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Trimestersdoula, good to "see" you, I've been wondering how you've been. 37 hours... youu are a strong woman.

Lee.. how are things today? I remember how awful the pain was with ds because he had such a lazy latch, I wanted to cry every time he nursed. I can't imagine having a skin problem that makes it worse.

AAM: Yesterday I got the kids and myself up and ready and got ds to school for the first time (DH has been here to do it so far.) We only ran five minutes late, and that was because I forgot I had to make his lunch lol.. I had a nice morning too, since I was already out, I met some friends for breakfast at a German diner, then we did some Target window shopping and sat around in Starbucks until it was time to pick ds up (he goes half days at a Montessori school). Elina slept the whole time, I guess getting up early did the trick - she was out for almost five hours, slept through diaper changes and an attempt to nurse lol.

As for getting frisky... I don't think it will ever happen at this rate! By the time both kids are asleep I am so tired I can't keep my eyes open. Not that I am ready to dtd, I STILL have some stitches hanging out down there, but we could still have some fun if I could only stay awake!

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