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#1 of 2 Old 12-30-2008, 11:00 AM - Thread Starter
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Just thought some Mamas may be able to relate to this article. Heck, being adopted, I know I do.
I know this shouldn't get to me. After all, it's a naturally curious question. People want to know if they are biologically related. But how can I answer that question, using the language I am given? My children are listening to me give the answer.

What would a 4-year-old think if he heard me say, "They aren't brothers, just three kids we adopted and forced to live together for better or for worse. They have no connection at all. They didn't even know each other before!"

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Thanks for the link, I enjoyed reading it.

That's really one of the hardest questions to answer as an adoptive parent, and people will poke and poke for the answer they want to hear, and seem not to care about asking in front of the children. I always just try to answer "yes", but it's not enough for some.
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