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|However, my dh says over and over it is like "Not Without My Daughter" in reverse and begs me to bring the children back to him.|
Happily married mom to DS (Aug 09) and two furry troublemakers.
I'm relatively new here too, but I had to respond to this, since it is something I have discussed with others in similar situations before.
I would not, under any circumstances, take your children to him. The chances that he could keep them from you permanently are very high. Do some research about international custody battles and find out if your husband's country has ratified the Hague Convention. If not, your husband can keep your children in his country and there would be pretty much nothing you could do to get them back. It is my understanding that very few middle eastern countries have ratified it, so be very careful. Also keep in mind that many middle eastern countries will not allow your children to leave the country without their father's explicit permission. I don't know what citizenship your children have, which may affect this. Perhaps it would be safe to take them on visits if you accompany them, but research carefully before going back there again.
It is sad that your husband's actions will deny him access to his children, but I would not take them back there for the time being. It is too big a risk.
I'm an expat living in China, this country has not ratified the Hague Convention either and my husband is Chinese. Luckily we have a very strong marriage, and I don't anticipate anything happening, but these laws are something that anyone involved in an international relationship should be aware of.