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That's how I feel too Cappucinosmom....I hope it's ok to quote the book on this forum, but the author says:
Meanwhile mom or dad (unaware of what their child is experiencing) might unwittingly collude with strangers during such intrusions by keeping the conversataion going. Garrett talks about counseling parents who often get into "these types of conversations explaining intimate details of their adoption or their interracial family with a complete stranger, and that's another violation of the child's world. If the parent is colluding with strangers by discussing these issues right in front of their kids, then the child becomes accostomed to not having their boundaires respected.....setting up a child for a pattern of allowing themselves to be mistreated by others who also dont respect their boundaries.
So in rereading that section, maybe she is talking about more intrusive questions from strangers??
I don't see any harm in letting people know she is kenyan/american...but maybe my daughter will get tired of people always asking about "what she is", implying that she is different from everyone else that they need to ask?
Still, I think the best answer would be simple and direct, stating that she is kenyan and american.
i don't know, what do you all think?
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