Excluding my mom, pretty much my entire family is racist. Now, they would NEVER consider themselves racist. They think they're quite normal and open to other cultures. But, the truth is, they're comments are just incredible to hear. They're all from eastern Europe, in a country that is 99.9% Caucasian Catholic. So, they have no exposure to other races.
My dp is adopted, and when I casually mentioned this to them, my grandmother said "my God, he could be a Jew for all you know." I'm embarrassed for them. Since then, she has gone on to say that "he could, God forbid, be an Arab." Really, I'm just glad my dp doesn't understand what they say due to the language barrier. My grandmother has been known to say things like "all black men beat their wives."
I've tried over and over to change their views, and nothing has helped. My hope is that because I will be raising my child in the states, and only going to see my family during the summers, my child will be able to differentiate between right and wrong in such views.
After all, I was born in that country, lived there until age 5, and then moved to America. At which point, I spent summers with family in Europe and the school year in America. And I definitely don't hold any racist views. Although, I do agree with the poster who said that, to a certain extent, we all have some prejudices. I'm sometimes surprised by mine, and I try really hard to overcome certain irrational fears or stereotyping.
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