Ds is Indian and i'm white american, and people (mainly dh's indian coworker keep asking when i will get a job). He is a nice guy and we are friends with him and his family, but it is very annoying that every few months dh comes home saying that his collegues wife says such and such is a good program and i could get a job and a degree in 1 yrs, 2 yrs etc. Dh doesn't have a problem that i stay home although i think he wouldn't mind if i worked. Dh's collegue's wife was a nurse and now an instructor a CC nearby now, and dh's friend is always saying i can make xx$$ being a nurse, etc. I flat out told dh i don't want to be a nurse and never want to be nurse, so just leave me alone about it, it's not going to happen. (Like i'm going to go into a job b/c some casual friends wife does it??)
I get some flack, but much less from the in-laws as dh said childcare would be too much to justify working, so i don't hear it from them much as they are in india.
So back to my orginal question, how can i get dh to let his friend know that just because i'm american doesn't mean that i have to work outside the home? (I'm convinced that they may hold a stereotype of what an american woman should and shouldn't do, i know my fil sure was surprised when he met me for the first time as i wasn't how he always heard of american women act) I don't think it helps that i have a BA and his friends and family know, like if i had not been college educated it would be okay that I 'just' sahm'ed.
I honestly don't know exactly how the conversation comes about with dh's coworker, dh just brought it up again today saying "i don't know why all my coworkers keep asking when you're going to get a job". I then dug a little deeper and asked is it you're coworkers or just your indian coworker-friend and he said it is just the indian coworker-friend. So not all his coworkers.
semi crunchy single student super mama to DS 7 and DD 3. Falling in with single super dad to DD5 and DD2