My husband is a black African, I'm white. We're expecting our first little one in a couple months. I have done some research about handling the difference in hair (I'm horrible with hair anyways, and have no experience whatsoever with "black" hair, other than helping my neices take out their braids a few times), but I figured I had at least a year before I had to start worrying about it, and then only if Baby is a girl. Then I realized the other night that my baby's going to have hair from the beginning and whether it's a boy or a girl, I might need to do something with it right away. Times like these I wish my sisters-in-law were closer! So I guess I'm asking for any advice on what to do/not to do from newborn on up to toddler. This will likely be a bigger deal if we have a girl, as my husband will know about dealing with boys' hair. We live in northern Canada where it's VERY dry; do I need to be thinking about special oils/conditioners? Washing too often? I already know that until our children get old enough to make the decision for themselves, we'll not be using chemicals/straightners/etc. Any advice those with experience can throw out for me would be VERY much appreciated!
Now as far as styling if you have a little girl, well I have no advice, sorry!
We have never washed hair more than once a week. Years after we started that, I realized that it was definitely best for their hair. When I grew up, we did baths and hair washes 3-6 times a week! I've never used anything on their hair except your basic baby shampoo, and occasionally coconut oil (which is a wonderful natural oil, moisturizer, and healing agent Also good for ashy skin and dry knees/elbows)
For our DFD, I am struggling to get into a routine, but she is black, not mixed and tons of hair.
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What about your DH? Does he know how to do hair? I ask because I usually default to mine on the trickier things. He grew up learning how to press hair, braid it, all that stuff. Maybe your DH knows a thing or two?
I would first like to say how impressed I am that you are seeking out this information. I am multiracial (with coarse, dry, very curly hair) and my mother is white. Dealing with my hair growing up was sometimes painful (both physically and emotionally) and I am very glad that the internet has provided people with much needed support and resources.
The above link is for a site that talks about the benefits of "natural" black hair. The chemicals used to straighten hair are extremely toxic and especially dangerous for developing bodies and brains (meaning for children and teens). Depending on the level of coarseness I would recommend braids or even dreadlocks (which can be beautiful when properly cared for) for easy styling and maintenance. For girls, I have found that either very short or very long hair are most manageable and attractive (and you daughter will most likely prefer long hair to reduce the stigma that will most likely already be attached to her textured mane).
For products I love Mixed Chicks which is a great line designed for multiracial people who have varying degrees of coil. It is also important not to wash more than once a week and to keep the hair moisturized with things like hot oil treatments (use warm oil on smaller children) which can be made inexpensively at home using olive oil and a couple of drops of lavender for improved scalp circulation.
Keep in mind that hair in is a huge racially charged issue and that the more you know the better you will be able to help your child navigate what may at times be a challenging journey.
I would also watch the documentary "Good Hair" : http://festival.sundance.org/2009/fi...ilms/good_hair
As a way to better familiarize yourself with the history of hair straightening and racism within the beauty industry.
Best of luck and please let me know if you have any specific questions or need anything else.
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