I don't find it offensive either. Actually I'm having a little difficulty understanding why it's something worth getting offended about?
Implying that it's better to look whiter, that's kind of offensive (although I'm not certain that's what was going on in the OP either). But just saying mixed babies are cute? I don't have any kind of issue with that.
I've actually gotten more nasty comments on going on to have a third after the first two, there are people I'm not even going to tell about the 4th until the absolute last possible moment. (These are people who know full well my intention was always to have 4. Yes, my timing is a little off from what I had ideally planned out in my head, but I am happy.)
lovin DH since 1/04, SAHM to 3 boys 10/04, 11/08, 11/10 one girlie (1/07), and one 13 wk (10/13) just your average :ha ng multigenerational living family!!
FS1-I've been told "oh he likes to dance! Well that makes sense, blacks are good dancers."
FS2-A number of people say that he looks Indian (he's AA) and that he's got nice hair. They intend to be nice, but its still offensive. Now I leave it curly so people aren't as likely to ponder his ethnicity aloud in front of us.
I think that, in general, people are more curious of how a mixed baby will "turn out" in terms of features than in the case of same race/ethnicity parents. Just a magnification of the normal wonder and observations about whose eyes, whose nose, whose whatever the chiild has. I am caucasian and DH is South Asian, so we wondered about it ourselves before DD was born. Like a PP said, it is sometimes reflected in "surprise" that a child did not "turn out" as expected (as if mixing a can of paints) which is more a reflection of ignorance about genetics than racism. While there are definitely racist people out there, I believe that most are just curious and don't express it very well.
OP, by the way, you have a beautiful family!
Apparently doing it rong and ruining it for everyone, but I don't give a crap anymore.
My mom and dad went to a racist church and when they found out I was having a baby with a black man, they asked my mom how "black" he was. How crazy is that? I had to explain to my mom that they wanted to figure out what the baby would look like. Stupid, stupid, stupid.
I have had plenty of people ask me if my son was mixed with Mexican or Native American. They are always shocked when they meet his dad. Here is a pic from when we were still married...
And here is one now. That is his baby step sister(same dad, white mom). Both have blue eyes as well. You just never know what you're gonna get, LOL
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Your children are precious and so are you and your hubby. Ignore the ignorant...
I get that a great deal. My son has blue eyes like my husband and I get, "oh he is so lucky he got his dad's eyes and hair"... um.. thanks I guess?
I even once described my sister as "more Jewish looking than I am" and the woman gasped and said "How could you say such a thing about your own sister?!?"
I'm all "My sister is very attractive. Are you implying that looking Jewish is a bad thing?"
That shut her up.
Why would the "Mexican" comment be offensive? Is it bad to look Mexican? I would have interpreted it that the children didn't look typically mixed white/AA. Nothing wrong with that!
It would be offensive for someone to comment that mixed half-siblings were not "real" siblings somehow. I met an AA coworker's daughter once. She was showing me a picture of something and she had another picture of a pretty white girl in her album. "Oh who is that?" "My sister" she said causally and moved on. I had never met her dad or seen a picture and had no idea she was mixed. I made no comment.
I wouldn't take the cute half-Asian baby comment as being offensive. While it's true that all babies are cute, it's fun seeing how mixed babies display the contrasting traits from their parents. I met a half-Vietnamese, half German girl yesterday (who had grown up in France and spoke German but not Vietnamese). Black straight hair with freckles and asian eyes. Mixed children are cute because they're a little unique. Some are a definite display of one parent or the other, others a real blend and yet others, look like something else.
A friend was AA/Native American mixed and he husband was German. Her handsome son could have been a dozen different things. I told him "Do you know how many countries you can travel to and they wont know you're a tourist? I'm curious how many languages you'll be spoken to in your lifetime..." He liked that idea!
In places like Brazil and the Caribbean, being mixed is the norm!