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#1 of 2 Old 05-25-2010, 10:46 PM - Thread Starter
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I am an American living in Brazil; my very shy English-speaking-only 9-yr-old daughter still goes to school in the US because English-speaking schools are prohibitively expensive for us here in Brazil, and eventually I'll be moving back to the US anyway, so not sure I want to try to get her acclimated to the Portuguese language and a Brazilian public school as this may end up putting her behind in her studies when we go back to the US.

So right now I only see her when I go to visit her in the US and during her summer vacations when she comes here (in-between, we talk on Skype), and of course I want to see her much more often. Ideally, I want her living here with me, but I want to do what is right for her as she has some trouble (anxiety) with big changes. I want her to feel confident and stay ahead in her studies.

As far as a solution goes, maybe I'm doing the right thing by keeping her in school in the US (where she lives, happily, with her dad)... Or maybe I could homeschool her here? The thing is, I don't know anything about homeschooling, including whether or not I would actually be good at teaching at her level.

What would you do?? Ideas? Would you say, "Homeschool, of COURSE"?

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I think she's old enough to have a say in the decision. Have you talked to her about it? What does she say?

We packed up our 5 year old daughter to live in Vietnam for two years, where she studied in Vietnamese schools. She had no problem reintegrating into the US school system, because the Vietnamese school system is actually ahead of ours in math and she was able to quickly catch up on reading in English (I had been teaching her English at home). But I'm not sure I'd do the same now that she is 10... they are learning US-specific subjects like history, not to mention friends and social groups is much more important than before. Even if you homeschool your dd, how will she make friends if she doesn't know the language?

It does sound like for your dd, the move would be pretty stressful. To me, just missing her is not a good enough reason to create that stress, because from her perspective she is going to be missing one parent no matter where she is.
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