We're curious because we're not going to be able to make the wedding with this stipulation (nursing baby, childcare not available for our older child)...
Having met the bride (who is non-Muslim) at a family event, I got the feeling the "no kids" rule might have been imposed by her...The community here is fairly tight-knit, and I can see this causing some ripples.
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And I want to echo a pp, Muslims in particular, can come from a variety of cultures, and have lots of cultural traditions surrounding their weddings. For example, I'm south asian (Hindu). My best friend is SA but muslim. We wear similar styles of clothing, and have similar traditions (shoe hiding, ect) at our weddings. The actual ceremony is what is different.
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I think that, on the contrary, most Muslim weddings have lots of kiddos at them because Muslims tend to have lots of kids, in my experience. Most of the weddings and social events I have been to have a designated area or babysitting for younger kids away from the main ceremony.
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i am muslim and i think it is a bit odd to stipulate no children. muslims (in general mind you) have lots of children around all the time. as earlier stated every person is different no matter the religious or cultural background but what i am wondering is if the couple would like to have a more mature wedding to remember rather than having family members chase kids around all night long. just a thought.
I think as there are more and more native born Muslims in America (and likely the same goes for other cultures integrating into this country) you'll see more and more Muslims holding receptions that specifically request to not bring children. AFAIK it's usually an artifact of formal per plate catering and rented facilities with enforced seating capacity, and not an actual distaste for children. As more people have more strictly American-style weddings, so too will there be more people thinking of ways to work their full invitation list into their budget.