A "friend" (more than an acquaintance, not quite a friend) is Caucasian and is married to a Filipino man. I am Caucasian and married to a Japanese/Guamanian man. We both had little boys about 6 weeks apart. My son is about 10 weeks old.*
I'm not sure how to respond to her. She is CONSTANTLY comparing our boys. At first it was Facebook comments on how much my son looks JUST LIKE her son. True, in the infant stage, there appeared to be some resemblance, but don't most newborns look alike? I'm not exaggerating, nearly every posted photo was met with, "He looks just like my son!!"*I saw pictures of her boy and thought, "Um, not really". But she has way fewer photos posted. **
We've seen each other twice in the last few weeks. Our boys really don't look alike AT ALL. Both times she's nearly tossed her baby in my stroller for comparison. The whole time we're around each other (picnic or birthday party, etc) she's saying, "Oh, they have the same this" or "They have a different that."
I'm really trying to hold back but really feel like saying, "No $**t! They aren't related! Just because we sort of share some vague classification of interracial marriage doesn't mean are kids are going to look the same!!"
Anyone else deal with this? How should I respond?
Also, any good comebacks for the CONSTANT "He doesn't look anything like you!!!" comments? The truth is, if people could look past his dark brown hair and eyes, he looks remarkably like me. My lips, my ears, my cheekbones, my face-shape. Should I carry around my baby picture for comparison? He looks a lot like me.*
I feel like saying, "If you weren't so distracted by his color, you'd see that he really is half mine."
Aurora , happy wife to C., mama to 3 : and , lost 12/08 & our 4/24/10