Hoping some of the more experienced Mommas can help me out here if anyone has been in this situation. I have three daughters from my previous marriage (the dad and I are the same race). My oldest daughter is 11 1/2 and does not approve of my boyfriend because he is of a different race than me. She admits he is a very nice person but thinks it is wrong for me to be with him because of his skin color. She has said a couple derogatory/unacceptable comments that I would expect from ignorant strangers but not from my own daughter. Her younger sisters (8 1/2 and almost 6) love him to pieces and don't care about his skin color.
I wasn't sure what to do or say when the last comment flew out of her mouth but I did let her know it wasn't okay to say things like that to me because it was unacceptable.
Anyone been through this? How did you handle it?
What is her dad's attitude about race? Any chance its coming from that side? If yes, then the otherwise great advice of the PP is going to be difficult. But yes eitherway she has to know racism and rudeness are unacceptable in your book/
Thanks ladies :)
Don't worry I let her know on no uncertain terms that is was absolutely unacceptable to treat someone differently because of their skin color, and it was also not okay to be rude to me, or anyone else ESPECIALLY because of skin color. After the last LONG talk she only made one more nasty comment to which later she profusely apologized for and has made a complete 180 from where she started. I think she FINALLY got the concept. I'm very proud of her. :) She seems to actually not just approve of him but actually like him and has accepted him. I think my firmness on the issue, his graciousness regardless of how she treated him, and time have helped. We also got her involved in wedding ideas which she has really taken a fancy to. :)