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Old 04-01-2014, 08:21 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm from the US and white, my DH is from Central America (he's half Central American, half Catalan) and is pretty brown.  Our DS looks a ton like me, has my complexion and a lot of my features, though he has a few features that are clearly from his dad.  We live in Central America right now (will be moving to the US in a couple months).  DS gets SOOOOO many compliments about his looks and his skin tone.  People always say he looks like he's "a doll" or "out of a commercial."  There's a lot of white worship from how everyone gets socialized in white supremacy.  I know it's not a big deal to him now since he doesn't know it's because of his skin, for him it just translates into lots of positive attention.

We plan on living between both countries, though, and I am already a little worried about how this will play out for him as he's older and able to see how he is treated compared to others.  I want him to grow up with a realistic understanding of racism and how white privilege, which he will likely benefit from in a lot of spaces, manifests in the world.  But I also don't want him to feel disconnected from his Central American roots.

 

Anyone dealt with similar situations and have any advice?  I assume this plays out a lot in multi-cultural families.

ETA: right now, DS is 6 months old


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I don't have any advice really but I would say dialogue dialogue with him. My son is biracial african Chilean( German)and German and he has blond ringlets and he gets a ton of attention here in the states. I cannot wait to start having discussions with him and focus on how intelligent he is in addition. I guess we can't change the way people react but we can help our children internalize it with appropriate filters right?
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Thanks, tracyamber.  Good advice.


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